Is it normal to feel alone around people more than i do by myself

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I had a lot of friends once. Best friends. But they kept changing into people they knew I hated. That was when it started. When I was a kid and had friends everything was great. Than my best friend made more friends, and I started feeling alone around her. She became someone she knew I hated, so I cut her loose.

Now it's hard for me to make friends. I've tried to be with people outside of school, or work, or wherever I've met them, but when I see how they are outside of that comfort zone they became someone I don't like. So I keep to myself most of the time. If I try to socialize, I feel even more alone than if I were actually alone in a room.

Is it normal to want to be around people, but feel alone around them?

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  • graydarkness
    12 years ago

    Yeah it's normal. When you're around people, especially friends, it only renforces that you're alone. You've been hurt - I can understand that. When I was in high school my best friend turned into a total bastard. But you know what? I made new friends. I just put myself out there and found people who share my interests and dreams and really understand me.

    Good luck.

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  • PoisonFlowers
    14 years ago

    A similar thing happened to me. People change. No-one can stop that from happening. It's one of the most popular reasons for ending relationships. It's not necessarily only the people around us who change either - more often than not, it's mutual, even though it may not feel that way.

    It's normal to feel alone when physically, you're anything but. I think it's a fairly common feeling. Not being alone is where we share a connection with someone. If you don't, it doesn't matter how many people you surround youself with, you'll still feel stranded.

    You're bad experience with your ex-best friends may have dented your ability to trust, which is why you now find it hard to establish a lasting friendship with someone. As soon as you see something unexpected about that person; another side of their projected persona, it seems that you immediately let go to avoid any surprises and any hurt. However, this means that you don't get a chance to know anybody properly. Judging a person hastily on only how they've seemed on a few instances is a good way of not getting it right. I know for one that if someone based their opinion of me on how I've acted around certain people on a particular day would not know me at all. It could be that you're not giving others enough of a chance. Yes, you can be hurt, but that's the risk one must take in order not to be alone. Not letting anyone in means that you could be passing up the chance to meet your best friends.

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