Is it normal to feel alone after not receiving a baby shower?

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I am 21 weeks pregnant with my first baby and I am giving my parents their first grandchild. Also, my two siblings will be aunt and uncle for the first time. My mom told me she would throw me a shower after the baby is born if I were more involved with extended family. In other words, I am not on good terms with extended family, and its ok that my mom is not throwing a shower for me, I am just upset with my siblings because I would think they should be a little more excited for me and want to celebrate new life, but apparently not, in fact, they are both unenthused and uninvolved, which means they couldn't give two shits about their niece or nephew, which really hurts. Also, I am a lot more involved with my husband's side of the family, he has four siblings and five nieces, we always make sacrifices to buy nice gifts for his nieces whenever we get invited to bday parties, if none of his siblings throw me a shower, I will feel really hurt. It's NOT about the gifts, because after all, I can buy used baby items for cheap, the whole thing breaks my heart.

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    Your Mom's being a total bitch.

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    • krh90
      9 years ago

      Actually, she's not the problem! I steer clear of my extended family because of how I treated at past family reunions, it's pretty bizarre of me to decide that I want baby gifts from family members that I don't speak to.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Maybe, your mom can't afford it and needs time to save up? Or, she might really want you to be on good terms with your extended family. Being on good terms with family and knowing people is good for a child.

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    • krh90
      9 years ago

      As expensive as baby showers are, that's actually not the case. My mom bought my husband and I a 72 count box of diapers off our registry, she is very excited about her first grandchild:))) she came over today and painted my babies room. I can't stand my extended family because over the past few years, up until a year ago, I attended family reunions every summer. Unfortunately, I had several cousins, aunts, and uncles say stuff about me behind my back. By the time my husband entered the picture, they started making untrue negative comments about him. It tore me to pieces that my family would stoop so low and since then, I haven't returned to another family reunion since. When I brought up the idea of a baby shower to my mom, she made a good point that I stopped seeing them, why would I expect them to buy me gifts? After careful thinking, a baby shower with extended family was a huge turnoff

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  • reminiscent
    9 years ago

    This is sad...
    did you tell his side of the family that your side is not throwing you a shower and ask if any of them would like to? Or maybe a friend could?.

    I had a nice baby shower with a cake and everything ...my mom threw me one.

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    • krh90
      9 years ago

      Thank you!!! I think this is sad too:( Now I am 26 weeks along and ITS A BOY!!!! Unfortunately, I am so disappointed in my siblings and their lack of enthusiasm that I don't expect anything from anyone at this point. I didn't say anything to my husbands side of the family, I know his sister mentioned throwing a baby shower, but that's still up in the air. I certainly didn't mention my family's pisspoor attitude, because it's not something I like to discuss face-to-face. Yesterday, I celebrated Christmas with my side of the family and boy was it a mistake for me to even go over to my parents house. My brother, along with his wife and my younger sister couldn't give two shits of a rats ass about their new nephew. I did NOT receive one congrats from my brothers wife. The whole thing upsets me.

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      • reminiscent
        9 years ago

        Your family sounds awful.

        I suggest you start to connect more with your husbands family. Talk to his sister about it...if she offered go to her tell her how you are feeling and ask if she was seriouse about throwing you one because you would love it if she did.

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