Is it normal to feel all alone when you do have friends?

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I keep having this feeling of loneliness even though I'm not , I have a family and siblings I play with from time to time and some good close friends diffrent from each other and I rely on them but latly i have felt left out from some of them like i dont belong with them and it been like that for a few months now
I have wanted to talk to those specific friends but never gotten the opportunity to do so or been to afraid to say something maybe its just a feeling i have thats not really true i dont know sometimes i feel left out sometimes i dont i dont know.
And there's something else.
Lately I have had this urgent need of always talking or being with people, as a person I am very social and easy to make friends but I do like to be by myself I like the quiet. But I have never been this way before well once but that went over quickly and nowadays I'm afraid to be by myself.
I just feel soo incredibly lonely when I'm alone maybe this is because I'm still recovering from my first real break-up but that was months ago I have felt happy and content to be myself since. Or maybe it's because I'm starting univerity soon nervous to begin studying and nervous if i wont make friends I dont know...
I just know that I dont like feeling this way being so needy towards people
what do

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    You sound like me. I can't really provide too much help as I am confused about why I feel like this at times myself but all I can really say is that maybe you probably don't relate to the friends you have now as much as you would like too. You will make new friends at uni so don't worry and new friends is probably what you need. When you're by yourself you should enjoy it as much as you can because then you might enjoy hanging out with your friends a bit more.

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  • shamrock2228
    6 years ago

    I struggled with loneliness alot when I was younger. I always felt like I was searching for something, yet I had no idea what. I liked being around people, but I never felt like I belonged. And I started to notice that after a night out with friends, I needed alone time to recharge. At 1 point I was convinced I had some type of personality disorder. I didn't realize that I was actually an introvert, and all of my friends were extroverts. I would encourage you to find out your personality type. I'm thinking you might be an INFP like me. Once I did find out my personality type, everything started to make sense. I don't struggle with the loneliness anymore. I've actually learned to embrace it. Just know that you aren't alone and there's a really good chance that the person that seems like the life of the party is probably the loneliest of all.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    12 years ago

    oh no that helped a lot! you're probably right! thanks!

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