Is it normal to feel alienated from your mom?

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Im (25) living together with my boyfriend and my mom, which I never really had problems with annoys me a lot with her calling and messaging me when she says "love you two" and "you both are doing so good" etc. it's just she always mentions him,too. Don't get me wrong, it's not jealousy, it's more pressure and fear of failing with this relationship since my mom is also very ill and i don't want to be mean and tell her off all the time. Since she had so many failed relationships she should know how easily things can change. Also, responding to these texts with "we love you too" would be so weird. My boyfriend and her, they met 3 times maybe. (we dint live nearby)
Had have anyone the same feelings and issues as me? I know it's no major problem but currently i deal with it everyday and it makes me talk to her less.

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    You should tell her how it makes you feel I'm sure she just wants to be nice and would understand if you did break up. Its not alienating unless she is turning you into an alien.

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  • Tealights
    6 years ago

    She's being supportive.

    Just turned 27 and in the same situation, but have the complete opposite thing with my mother.

    When I ask my mother why she doesn't care about my relationship, she tells me, "I don't care about him, because boyfriends come and go." This frustrated me, however, it made me think. She's been this way for every boyfriend I had, so what makes her opinion so irritating now? It's because of my feelings/opinions are incredibly different from before; with previous boyfriends, I wasn't as serious deep down (though on the surface I thought I was), and on some level I agreed with her; but now, I don't.

    In the end the only opinion that matters is yours (and your partner's) when it comes to your relationship. And I'm not saying you don't love your boyfriend, but the aggravation you feel may not be because your mom is supportive of your choices, but because of something deep within yourself about your own relationship, whatever that may be.

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