Is it normal to feel afraid about marriage?

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Is it normal to feel afraid about marriage when you're born into a culture that practices arranged marriages?

I'm somewhat of the shy awkward girl in class and I don't date or even talk to guys much. Honestly, I'm okay with that (for now) but I get uncomfortable whenever my parents talk of finding someone for me, because I can't imagine something like that happening to me or more like happening successfully. In my religious culture, everyone gets married one way or another, whether it's by personal choice, the parent's decision, or arranged by the church leaders and congregation, but lately I've been distant from the church community and even my parents and it's kind of bothers me that they would expect me to follow their expectations. I'm okay with the idea of marriage, but not the pressure to consent to it as if it's normal. The problem is I don't have the right idea of arranged marriages.I just don't think I have the confidence to handle a drastic change in my life.

Ok so my life isn't normal, but I am normal about it? That's mainly my question.

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  • Judas_misunderstood
    13 years ago

    To hell with the church, and with anyone who would force a situation on you.

    Explain to anyone concerned that marriage is your decision and if you do marry, your husband will be your choice of partner.

    When you meet someone right for you, you will know it. You don't need to have a fight about it with anyone else, just calmly explain that that's not your plan and you will get to it when you want to.

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  • peterr2
    8 years ago

    If you can suck cock everything will work out for you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    OHHH P.S i wish you good luck! ^,^

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I completely understand where your coming from I too have to have an arranged marriage. I think its normal to feel those question. I have similar ones and im scared too haha people always say that its easy "you are the chooser of the one" ...but its not that simple right? yeah your absolutely normal about.

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  • Senken
    14 years ago

    Wtf? Marriage is normal. it's simple. nobody can force you to marry anybody you don't want to. so so long as you don't want to marry someone you won't get married to them. If you do want to get married to someone then get married to that someone.

    so no need to fear

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    • ledhead
      13 years ago

      not that simple... in a lot of cultures, your family would disown you, you would be banished from you church etc...

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  • Lockets
    14 years ago

    Just wondering, what religion/culture are you?
    Just that you mention church and I don't know any Christian denominations who do arranged marriages.

    I think it is normal to be afraid of marriage, especially if you are still young and at school.

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