Is it normal to feel, "only a boyfriend can bring out the best in you?

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I'm 22 and i see everyone around me having a boyfriend, with most people having relationships now lasting several years. When you're younger, you feel that by this age that you would be able to find the right guy and you paint this perfect picture in your head. I've had only 1 relationship where i was in love with the guy..having him in my life really brought out the best in me..i dont know why, but i could concentrate on uni more, have hope for the future, a sense of stability and security.. and there was no pressure to find a boyfriend. but after i broke up with him for treating me badly, i felt like i lost a huge chunk from my life and feel very lonely. all the dreams and hopes suddenly vanished. i know that im young and have a whole life to find the right guy..but not having some one there is very hard for me. it's hard to explain this but i feel like that my look on life has changed, and i find it hard to have hope now or believe there's a whole life in front of me. i feel less motivated in life. i see how my friends get that huge motivation and support from their boyfriends...a sense of hope and excitement in their lives. i duno, is this normal how im feeling? i dont know what's going on with me :(
Please help me!

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  • thebuddah
    13 years ago

    You really need to take sometime out and find yourself. Learn to love yourself and be yourself at all times. The reason you feel like this is because you don't feel content with who you are. And if u continue to think the way you do, you'll always be with guys that treat you badly. Trust me I learned the hard way. There are books and even apps that can guide you. You, yourself more than anyone else in the universe deserves your love and affection

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  • thebuddah
    13 years ago

    Go download the app "find yourself " it's great!

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    • isabella9876
      13 years ago

      thanks heaps! that a great song! i like this video of that song on youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XxXY2-44bCs

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  • Lia
    13 years ago

    I'd say that's normal. It's an instinctual thing to want a partner in life. I guess the lack of motivation in life you now feel will make falling in love feel even more awesome in contrast :P how long ago were you in a relationship? You probably haven't completely moved on yet; like you're not used to being single anymore.

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    • isabella9876
      13 years ago

      yea you're right,i guess everyone wants a partner in life! it was about a 2 year relationship,yea i guess im struggling to move on, i dont miss my ex, wat i do miss is having someone there for me and to love. i know that when i do move on, i will look back at this and think this is silly, like why was i sad? but at this moment there's just too many emotions and also the fear that other guys will hurt me in the future.

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  • isabella9876
    13 years ago

    thanks so much for your advice thebuddah (72829). You are absolutely right! i really need to learn to love myself. It's like when we're in relationships, we receive that validation that we're great from the other guy, but when we break up, there's no one to say amazing things about you constantly or want to be with you night and day. i have to be myself and be comfortable with who i am without any guy first, so that i dont fall into destructive relationships

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