Is it normal to feel...

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My first long term relationship ended a year ago(4 years). I thought I was in love with him, but he physically, mentally, and emotionally abused me. I was 'anti-love' for a while. Then an old friend and I hung out and we instantly got attached. He treats me better than any guy I've ever known. He does everything he can to make me happy and he always tells me that he loves me. I know I love him. But sometimes I get scared about how I feel about him. He says he'd never treat me the way my ex did; part of me believes him, but a small part of me thinks that he'll do the same things my ex did. When we're together he can tell when I get scared when he acts or moves a certain way and he'll just hug me until I relax in his arms. I feel like I'm putting too much on him(like he always has to prove that he's not going to treat me like my ex). Is it normal for me to feel like this or am I just setting myself up to lose him?

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  • Mikael
    13 years ago

    awww well he wont if he is kill him tell it to him well ive been in ur guy shoes like i want to ladies to forget the past that has happe iam sorry i know that you ladies cannot forget and its the truth but just put it to the side he realli lives u alot be with him now and he'll show u a different story that how he with treat u oh come on we humans live to figure ot whats right for us not to puts us done just becuz one guy did you wrong and judge the rest ...remmeber if u cannot forgive u cannot love agin ...and gf there is not such thing as regrets or accidents why? becuz during that time u loved him so much that u were willing to do it for him becuz u loved him and accidents certain ones arent accidents like we know what are the side afects and still we do it like ive cummed in my gf once and after that when guys say oh its an accident i get mad that theyare such lairs and these beauitful girls trust them and say the same but the truth is no they did it cauase they know that they cannot win the girl by heart..........................

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  • BfingIToucher
    13 years ago

    He sounds like a great, patient guy,and it sounds like you were able to avoid picking another abusive partner (which is common for abused women.) And maybe one of the reasons he is attracted to you is because he likes being a protector. Still, it might get tiresome for him after a while if he continues to feel like he has to prove himself. Wouldn't be a bad idea to get some counseling and explore your past relationship and put some closure on it so it doesn't negatively affect your current relationship.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    You're just in a trauma from your ex bf thats why you think the new guy is going to do the same. just try and forget totally about your ex BF and try to relax and enjoy your correct partner.

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