Is it normal to fear that my child will die at birth?

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Ok so here is the problem that I am facing most recently. I got out of the Army and immediately got pregnant to my bf I met during Basic Combat Training in October. I just found out about and haven't told him yet for fear that I will lose it at birth and cause him and me great pain. My family has a history of problems in this area, my mother actual gave birth to alll four of my siblings through c-section and my first sister( the oldest) died by an undeveloped heart because she was premature by 2mths and we almost lost my brother as well. I am only 19 and have never had to deal with this before and I also have a history of blood type health problems so I fear that I will lose my child before I truly get to show it all my love. Is this a normal fear?

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  • arabmoney
    13 years ago

    I'm so so sorry I think u shud tell him exactly like u told us share your fears and joy

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  • candy8
    13 years ago

    I think it's very normal like when I had my first child when i got pregnant I was very worried that my baby would die right inside of my stomach,but she is as happy as ever and she is five years old right now

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  • mew
    13 years ago

    I felt the same way as well I had high blood pressure and my baby stopped growing at 34 weeks. I had a high risk birth at 39 weeks but it all worked out well. Just relax things don't go wrong very often anymore.

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  • petals
    14 years ago

    Just stay strong! I was worried About loosing mine and my family doesn't have any health issues, so a lot of women worry it's very normal.

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  • Scrat
    14 years ago

    You have gone to army at this age?? It's totally normal just talk to your dr i hope everything goes well ;)

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  • Bobert
    14 years ago

    Both you and your partner were in the army? I don't know what your worried about; army babies are tough little bastards. I'm sure it'll be ok.

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  • hotchickie81
    14 years ago

    I really hope your pregnancy goes well and so does the birth. Good luck! :) Maybe talk to your doctor about it. They might be able to help prevent things like that.

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  • whyisthishappening
    14 years ago

    Yes, totally normal. For weeks before my daughter was due I had horrible nightmares that something would happen when I went int o labor. . .I spoke with several pregnant woman at that time and they all had the same feelings. We always fear the unknown. Everything will be fine, try not to worry and it will be over before you even realize it!

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    i think your fear is justified, considering all the family history and health issues. the best thing is to see your obgyn as soon as possible and make sure all those topics are brought up. good luck:)

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