Is it normal to fear intimacy,even tho you had sex many times

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i only had sex with 3 girls in my life(im 26)but i had sex with them alot.

when i have a girl friend,i dont want anyone to know that i have a girl friend,when i have sex,i dont want no one to know that i have sex,when it have anything to do with a relationship with a person im attracted to i cant let know one know this. is this normal.

im not a virgin i had good sex in my life,i had girlfriends(in my mid teens.

i try to keep my sexuality a secret and seeing society is so open about sex,i cant have it cause i know the frist person i do something with everyone would know,and because of this i dont have sex.

i have done things to girls one night the the next night ill be scared to do anything untill after i do it a few more times with them(like 10 times)and we have to be alone otherwise i wont do it is this normal,

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  • Tommythecat.
    9 years ago

    Puss puss.

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  • pixie_dust
    9 years ago

    what do the girls think about it?

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    • stevieo
      9 years ago

      what do you mean when i be scared,it only happen to 2 girls really when i have to make the move 1 time 2 time 3 time what ever thats when get fear comeing in. and she be like why tho we just did it 2 days ago.she was cool about it tho so yeah.the 1 time was when i was young like 15 and i was cool with it at that time.but when i got older it was different with the second girl but the 3 girl she was makeing all the move's

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      • pixie_dust
        9 years ago

        your thoughts are all over the place and they're hard to follow. Do you have OCD? ADHD? What' the deal with you?

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        • stevieo
          9 years ago

          sorry it took so long for me to replay.

          you make it seem bad(it mite be idk).i just have raceing though's.

          and i can understand where you getting at.

          why i crave nacho and cheese(i can make the best nacho and cheese ever better then what you buy at the store)

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          • pixie_dust
            9 years ago

            Do you use any substances?

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  • Gspyder
    9 years ago

    Are you afraid of others knowing you have sex, or that they will say you aren't good and it?

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    • stevieo
      9 years ago

      both of them.even when i do have sex with a girl ill be scared to still do it the second time.this been going on most of my life.

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      • Gspyder
        9 years ago

        Hmm, sounds like mostly an anxiety thing. But hey, you personally said all three of those girls had sex with you a lot of times, so they must have liked it! Right?

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        • stevieo
          9 years ago

          and you wanna know something else,i think you right.i suffer from anxiety i'm more quiet,i don't talk to people at all,i make no friends at all,i bearly talk to my family also,only cause of the emotional abuse i been through with family n friends,but i have always had anxiety i even got doctor medical records when i was a kid stating that i'm quiet and isolated and don't be active with my peer's,but the question is i don't understand my anxiety,i think it goes deeper then just sex,like it has a effect on my sex life but its not sex its self,like depression have effect on your job and people you around but its not the people are your lack of people,

          people hate me cause i dont have sex and i reject every opertunity(despite i really want it),is this a logical reason to hate someone.i dont think so.

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        • stevieo
          9 years ago

          i had a gay guy tat liked me and tried to have sex with me for 7 years(never though a person would go so far for sex)i'm not gay,so in doing so he ruined my life by making all thos i love hate me,idk how are wat he said,i think he told them i have low self esteem(with i do but not a reason to hate me)

          i never had a job a car a house(my own place) a girl friend(but only one 10yr ago)no education and im 25.thats how low my self esteem is most of it is cause of emotional abuse of the family.

          i have been dehumanize(i lost my self years ago)

          can u please answer my other questions

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          • ExoticMayanSaturday
            9 years ago

            Sweetheart sometimes you should see a therapist not because there's something wrong but to help you figure stuff out about yourself without being judged. And one that YOU feel comfortable with I suggest leaning towards a female over a male because they will probably have more sympathy and empathy, no one on here can help you and you deserve to feel happy and healthy. Make sure the therapist is going to help you move forward in your life. Don't go to a therapist that makes you look at those bullshit pictures. I read a book that my therapist suggested to me and it helped loads I promise because I was very skeptical about having a therapist and ESP the title of the book but do look it up! The Depression Cure by Stephen Ilardi

            I'm not saying you have depression but this book helps with anxiety as well

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        • stevieo
          9 years ago

          YES,and the trust i had no girl complain about me,only whore's who talk bad about my size, but to a normal girl they love me,and really i rather perfer them,whores are gross.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    It sounds like you have a feat of intimacy and also like you have a rather shame based streak.

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    • stevieo
      9 years ago

      i dont understand wat u just saidmbut thank you very much

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Thanks, I'm sorry, I meant to say a fear of intimacy and probably a fear of commitment as well.

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