Is it normal to fantasize about mental disorders?

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I'm asexual and have no sexual fantasies, but I do have other types of romantic fantasies, mostly involving cuddling. However, almost always, these fantasies involve me or my S.O. having some type of mental disorder (including but not limited to separation anxiety, social anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, self-harming, phobias, hallucinations and depression) or some times just being ill or distressed, and getting help and comfort to get through whatever it is. To be honest I'm not sure if I wouldn't want those daydreams to come true. Is it normal to fantasize about that? Does it mean anything/say anything about me?

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Do you already have a mental illness or neurological disorder per chance?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I'm kinda depressive and I used to cut, but my shrink says I'm not mentally ill. I used to pretend I was okay when I talked to her, though, it's been a year since I last cut, but if there were no scars I'd do it again. I'm not too depressive, though, really.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Some of us crazy people can be very entertaining to be around. I'm a diagnosed loony and you never know what I'll do next, nor do I.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      May I ask what kind of looniness you have been diagnosed with?

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Aspergers, schizoaffective, adhd and dyslexia.
        I don't think a diagnosis tells a whole lot though. I used to be a mental health peer councilor and two people with the same dx will often have nothing in common. I'm not so much the self destructive anxious crazy you're describing. I'm more of an absent minded maniac. I'm usually pretty entertaining though. Never a dull moment with me but I might burn your house down if you leave me unattended.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          Interesting. But yeah, unfortunately you're not my type of crazy ;)

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  • squirrelgirl
    10 years ago

    Sounds like you would enjoy a genre of fiction called Hurt/Comfort or H/C. It's not necessarily a fetish/sexual thing; it's intended to give you a case of the warm fuzzies from reading about one character taking care of another in some way (be it physically or emotionally). I've enjoyed reading and writing H/C fanfictiion since I was a preteen. I think I like it for multiple reasons: part of me wants to be "rescued" because I've struggled with mental illness my entire life, and another part of me enjoys reading about characters that illicit sympathy in me since it's an emotion that unfortunately doesn't come easily to me.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Yeah, I do like H/C, and I've written a few fics of that genre myself :) Trouble is that when I read stories like that I wish really bad that I was one of the characters.

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  • flowergirl87
    10 years ago

    Hmm... may imply either you want to be rescued or you want to be a rescuer. It's up to you to work out why you have those feelings, if indeed you do. I think you should work this out and give it some thinking time as otherwise you might end up in quite an unhealthy relationship. Mental illness isn't something to be scared of and people can get better, especially with the support of others, but it would be bad if it was the kind of foundation of a future relationship. I hope that makes sense.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I get what you mean, but I'm crazy to the point of sometimes hating my S.O. for not having any disorder and not being depressive, and I've even tried to find suicidal people to date/befriend on the internet.

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      • flowergirl87
        10 years ago

        If you can I reckon you should see a professional about this. There's something going on in your head and it may lead to some very negative behaviour. I don't want to sound judgemental, we're all going through our things in some way, but it's not healthy and if it's getting in the way of your current r'ship, that's a shame. I think it would be better to sort the issue out rather than keep wishing your S.O. had a disorder and/or seeking out people who do. The reality of being with someone with a mental illness can be tough. Obviously there are many different types. This is just a fantasy and fantasy is usually better than reality!

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          Hm...I guess I do have trouble accepting that reality isn't as wonderful as my fantasies, especially when it comes to love and relationships, because I've always thought that you had to find someone who's absolutely perfect for you and stay with them all your life. Childish, maybe, but I'd rather be depressed than to let go of that belief.

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