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Sometimes when I'm bored I like to fantasize about how fat a person can get. Some examples are of me imagining them getting so big that their butthole can be a tunnel or if they're walking through a mall and then there are 5 people orbiting around them. Is this normal?
Try fantasizing about the person they are underneath all that fat that you think is so funny. If you do it properly, you'll realize that they have feelings just like you do.
When you stated that you think it's "funny", I started to think you were ignorant.
Don't jump to conclusions like most people do on IIN. Give the OP a chance to explain first.
I am an overweight person, and I struggle with my weight constantly. I fantasize about this as a way to cope with the depression of being large. If this kind of thing doesn't harm anyone else and if I can find happiness in it, then why is it so bad?
Because getting fat is not at all funny.
You say you're overweight, but have you ever been obese? Did you know that it's a completely different situation. Obese people are not even treated like human beings by the majority of everyone else. A very close guy-friend of mine struggles with obesity and people don't even acknowledge his existence most of the time. He's so depressed that he can't even imagine what it would be like to be a normal size. Food is his only pleasure in life and it's the one thing that is killing him.
So, ya, when I see someone writing that they think it's "funny" to imagine a fat person blowing up like a balloon, I get a little bent. I think of my poor friend murdering himself with food because there's no other way he can cope with everyone's knee-jerk hatred of him.
And whose fault is it that he is murdering himself with food? If he ate normal portions and was active then he wouldnt be a raging obese fatass.
I am sure he is a nice person, he would have to be if he is that fat otherwise no one would talk to him, but still its nobodies fault but his own that he is that size. Unless he is being enabled by someone who cooks or gets him McDonald's constantly to maintain that size, if he cant move around on his own.
Its the same thing with drug addicts, nobody forced them to use they made a conscious decision to start doing it. Reap what you sow.
Thanks. I love it when people who have never met my friend pass judgment on him.
You're a real class act.
I don't know who your friend is but I can almost guarantee that he isn't as unfortunate as I was. I used to weigh 700 Lbs, and even though it's not easy people do have to realize that it is their own fault and that they do indeed have control over their situation.
Your friend has to make a change, and only he can do this. I don't think you'll respond to me again because it seems apparent you don't like me because of this story I posted, but ignore that fact. Give your friend my advice, and get him to change. You might not respond well to what I'm about to say, but maybe you're not doing enough for your friend and maybe that's why he is the way he is.
You have to be straight-forward with him, because if you aren't it won't get through to his head.
I passed nothing on him, judgment or otherwise. In fact most people who are obese tend to be nicer people then those that arent. People who are described as beautiful more often then not approach others and everyday life as if the world owes them something just because they are "beautiful" if just on the outside (which is were the majority of their beauty begins and ends).
My point is the same as what the author says below. He needs to make the change himself. Unless he really doesnt care and accepts his weight and eventual early death.
Yes, I am obese, and I am sorry to hear about your friend.
I know exactly what it feels like for people to ridicule me and seclude me like I'm not on the same level as anyone else. I know how painful it can be to not have acceptance and for other people to prey on my shame.
But you know what? This is my way of making the most out of something I'm not proud of and turning it into something joyful and positive. Even if you struggle with something you can still make the most out of it and feel good about yourself to a certain extent.