Is it normal to fall in love with someone almost thirty years older?

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I'm 21 and I've been in a relationship for almost a year, but i've been talking to a man who is in his fifties and we have really grown a connection. We talk about poetry, love, and even meeting each other. When i don't talk to him every day i hurt inside with a longing to be with him. One day we spoke on the phone and I blurted out "I love you!" Is this normal?

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    I aggre with hornsby123. Obvious pedofile.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I have Daddy issues too, and had a similar experience. The age difference is quite large though, so be sure and weigh the pros and cons.

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  • Antitheist
    13 years ago

    generations apart. interests might be common, but you can't change or learn the life lessons of a fifty year old. Don't give in to gramps, and save that young vag for a boy more deserving.

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  • drewbster
    13 years ago

    Someone has daddy issues.

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  • y007steph
    13 years ago

    Yes, this is normal, but only for a relatively short period, max. 3-4 years. After this you will turn being gerontophile.

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  • bazwell
    14 years ago

    Proceed with caution. You may feel you know him and "love" him, but the lack of physical chemistry can be just as detrimental to a relationship as the lack of an emotional or psychological connection to a person. Until you meet him in person and spend time with him in intimate and non-intimate situations, don't jump to the conclusion along with the butterflies in your stomach that you "love" him.

    Now, on to your current relationship. I am guessing that this relationship you mentioned is separate from your interest in the guy in his fifties, right? Well, you are cheating on your current partner. The longer you do this without setting things right, the more of a scumbag you will be. Emotional infidelity can be just as painful and is every bit as reprehensible as physical cheating. If you want to be with a different partner then be respectful enough to place your cards on the table and come clean to your partner.

    best of luck to you!

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  • hornsby123
    14 years ago

    Just think, if you were a few years younger he wouldn't care. If you were 14 or 15, he'd still be thinking about tearing open your pink taco with his wrinkled shaft before it's developed. You are associating with a pedofile.

    References: 7 years as an child molestation detective for the MPD.

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  • amberinboston
    14 years ago

    Love is what's important. As long as 2 people are adults. People look for different things in a relationship. Just make sure he can function.

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