Is it normal to fall in love with a student

Today, I am in this forum because I want to share my darkest secret, which I have not been able to share even with my best friend. I am a 26 year old guy, by profession I am a teacher that too accidently. My childhood was a mess, had it not been for my mother I would have become some drunken street thug. Grew up on hearing morals and values and always tried to abide by them as a result I had gone through a broken releationship. So, I have learned German language from an institute called "Goethe Institute" from my home town Kolkata, after completing B2, I got a job of a contractual German language instructor at a school called in my neighboring state, the pay was good and everything was a dream come true for me, till one day I came across a 10th grader student . Ah! she is lovely, sweet, descent , intelligent and a charming young girl of age 16. I noticed her couple of times during the morning prayers and her sight used to make me feel good. I only used to teach the 6th and the 7th graders the language as a third language so, I hardly had any sort of interaction with the 10th graders, so it was just a feeling which I thought it would pass away and I did not even pay a heed to it but after three months, I started attending the 10th graders,as a substitute teacher of physical education as the physical education instructor went on a leave for more than a month, so during those classes I used to help them with spoken English because their English was not so good, in fact my English was way better than the other teacher, I had this American accent because I grew up watching Hollywood movies therefore in terms of English (spoken) no one could out do me and for that reason I was popular, apart from being the only teacher who could speak German. So I always had this friendly approach towards students, and to these fellas I was a little more casual , funny and friendly. I gained their trust , which I wanted and it did help them too, but in the mid way I got a little too close to her , I would often have discussions with her in the class , I used to help her out although her English was good . She could speak fluently without any grammatical error. She used to read English novels and I would ask her questions about her views on the characters and she used to express her views spontaneously without biting her nails. I also used to notice her the way she used to look at me though I used to pretend that I have not seen anything but I did like her attention and wanted more of it . Everyday when I used to go to school I used to look for her and her presence was like a gush of fresh air to me and the days when she did not use to come I felt very melancholic .Later I realized that I am in love with her although it is something which should not have happened but happened. I read a couple of blogs where it has been stated, that teachers are like parents they cannot desire their students it is forbidden but by that time it was too late I fell deeply in love with her. Things were going out of hands , I could notice the change in my behavior when I used to be around her,other students noticed it too, they were beginning to understand, I think she was liking it too but before things would have taken an ugly turn , I decided to quit my plum job and I did submit my resignation and I left. Everyone in my school were awestruck with this decision of mine my especially my colleagues and my principal. They wanted to know the reason behind this drastic step,at first my principal would made me sit in her office for hours and would ask me about the reason behind such a step. In the end I gave her a false reason that I want to study further as a result I am quitting but the real reason was her,I did not want to hurt or harm her so I left and I have come back home. It was painful knowing that I would never see her again but I loved her too much to hurt her , I do not even know whether she has a boyfriend or not if not I wish that she would come across someone probably of her own age who would really love her . Still this moment my mind has been dominated by her thoughts and I am also depressed and there is this pain in me which is growing with the passing up of each day. Sometimes I feel like killing myself for letting her go but I loved her truly from deepest corner of my heart and I know what I did , I did it for her good. I do not know for how many days I can withstand this pain. Now I have a question for you people who just read my story. Do you think is it absolutely normal to fall deeply in love with a student and the step that I took for her welfare was it right?

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  • Eagwol

    you hear stories about teachers getting in a relationship with a student, the good thing is that you didn't act on your desires, instead you helped yourself avoid trouble. that's a big thing, not many have the strength you shown. some people just give in to desires and say fuck it.

    but that false reason of leaving, you might as well study more, learn more to teach more. and let this experience be a lesson for you, learn from it. who knows, one day you could teach again and not have to worry about this happening again.

    i wish you luck, may you walk a path that opens many doors for you.

    PS: what you feel, it will hurt for a while, you won't forget her though, just with time it gets easier if the thought of her comes to mind. you will move on, live on. its just going to really suck for a while.

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    • chakrabortysanjeet24

      I will never forget her till my last breathe.

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  • regisphilbin

    use paragraphs next time and maybe i'll read it

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    I'm pretty sure it's not terribly uncommon but we are expected to be able to restrain ourselves in that sort of manner and I am happy for you that you were able to take those steps. It probably wasn't easy.

    I think that a lot of us have found ourselves in situations in our lives for whatever reason in which we have had to let people we loved go - I certainly have. It shatters your heart knowing that there was a possibility that you could have this person who you wanted so badly but for their own good, you had to back off and leave them be. I understand, dude.

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    • chakrabortysanjeet24

      Thnx for the support. ....

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    • chakrabortysanjeet24

      Sometimes it is better to inflict pain on yourself than to hurt or harm those whom you love the most. Anyways she deserves better and being a teacher I could not have indulged myself in something like this. I know it sucks pretty bad now but I think that I love her too much so I had to do it for her welfare. Probably, she will never know about this and eventually she will even forget about me which is quiet normal but in the end I can hold my head high and say "I loved her enough to let her go".before I bid adieú to this world.

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  • sillygirl77

    No it's not normal. Additionally, you're a teacher and you don't know how to write using paragraphs?

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    • chakrabortysanjeet24

      I was going with the flow.......... I do know know how to use a paragraph.

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