Is it normal to fall in love with a life long friend? its complicated.

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okay so i've known this girl for nearly 8 years now, we were friends in high school then i didn't see her again in till my final year of college and we've been best friends ever since. it was great but things started to change. we've started to get really close and now i cant get her out of my head. im in love with my best friend. i liked her a bit back in school as well but never said anything. only i keep thinking of her as my girlfriend when i know full well shes not. a few months back in summer there was a night when we got together and fooled around a bit but evertime i try and bring it up since she doesnt want to talk about it and changes the subject. i keep telling myself shes too good for me (shes gorgous btw) and that it wont work but my friends tell me other wise. ive always been under confident i guess. somehow i got it in my head that i should try and get over her (before anything even happened)by
sleeping around. ive told her about most of the times because we tell each other everything. it didnt work and i like her even more now, i feel like such a dick for doing it. it might be too late but i want to tell her how i feel but just cant... ive never told a girl i fancied them before and meant it

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  • ggeineg
    12 years ago

    If you really love her, than tell her. Why are you gunna let it get away? Obviously u rly care for her since u guys have been friends for so long and since u guys have fooled around then Shes prob got some feelings there for u too. I say go for it! Tell her how you feel! Or you are always gunna be tortured by "what if..?" for the rest of ur life. Goodluck :)

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  • stonecutters93
    12 years ago

    Ggeineg said it perfectly, you're gonna be tortured by "what if" for the rest of your life if you don't tell her. sometimes you have to take the risk in order to get the reward. And I think you need to start believing in yourself and saying you are good enough for her, girls love confidence. Good luck!

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  • averageman
    11 years ago

    look up the "ladder theory" talks about female psychology and why girls and guys cant be friends

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  • averageman
    12 years ago

    thank you for the encouragement! its just what i needed. i told her last night, but she doesnt feel the same :( she said she liked me during summer around the time of 'that night' as we kept calling it but decided not to act apon it as it might jeperdise our friendship. she basically said she cares about me too much and if anything bad was to happen she wouldnt want to lose me over it so its better not to go there.
    i 100% respect her decision but cant help the way i feel, im still crazy about her but its for the best. but the thing that still plagues me is the way she kept talking like it definately would have no chance of working but if we were to get together i cant imagine us breaking up

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Don't give up the field before you've even set foot on it! At least try to win her heart.

    Who knows? Maybe deep down she feels the same about you.

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  • bones
    12 years ago

    Go for it. Tell her how you feel. Maybe if you're to scared, just show her this story, NOT telling her you wrote it, see what she says, then tell her that's you, talking about her? I would highly recommend doing something. Tell her.

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