Is it normal to fall in love on just locking eyes a few times

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Hey guys. I need your help.

I am 32 and she is 18

I fell for a girl who just locked her eyes with me for about a month on daily basis when we wait for a bus on the bus stop. I have never talked to her or met her in person. We both used see each other for 2-3 minutes every day and Now I have started feeling that I love her. I can not stop thinking about her all the time. I am avoiding my all other work, family friends.

Now whenever I try to approach her she just avoids me.

I want to know is it normal to fall for a girl by just contacting eyes with her. And also is it normal for someone 32 to fall for someone 18?

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  • Sog
    11 years ago | pl

    Expecting a post tomorrow:

    "Is it normal some old creeper keeps staring at me on the bus stop?"

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    • Mrstr8up
      11 years ago

      Ohhh... Thats funny !!

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Pfft, that's not "love" - it's lust.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    11 years ago

    Its not love. Love is something that needs time to grow. This is lust. It is normal for a 32 yr old to like a girl a lot younger, but by 32, you should know the difference between love and lust. Having a strong attraction to someone is not love.

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    • mikhilamit
      11 years ago

      Hi there,

      Thanks for your reply. I agree it takes time for love to grow and this is the reason I am seeking your.

      I am curious to know if there is something wrong with me, that just looking deep into this cute girls eyes, I fell in love for her.

      I don't think this is lust for sexual gratification. I am in love with her. I would cry for her in nights. I would just wake up suddenly in night and start thinking about her. I am loosing my sleep, my concentration and getting aggressive.

      Though to be frank I am still not clear if this is what happens in love.

      Please note I am a very shy guy and girls are like aliens to me. I have never been close to any girl so far.

      I am a closed person who is dying for someone to love him but cannot go out direct to a girl, start conversation with her and take it from there!!!.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    11 years ago

    Well, right now it couldn't be love, but maybe infatuation. You don't even know this girls first name yet, or do you? It will help for me to know how well you actually do know this girl... like how do you know she's 18? Have you both already spoken? Have you sat next to her on the bus? Have you already introduced yourself? How far have you actually come/gotten?

    If you really would like to pursue this girl, you need to start out with little conversation, 'small talk' each day. Maybe nonchalantly bring up the weather. After making small conversations with her, introduce yourself... "By the way my name is...---,(& hand shake)". She'll probably then mention hers. After a little of this each day, slowly move into what you really want to ask her. "So, are you seeing anyone by any chance?"... or "Would it be too much for me to ask, if you'd want to grab a coffee sometime?"... etc... I don't know... something like that.

    With the very little information I know about your situation, its a little hard for me to tell you what you should do. You just have to get passed your nerves and go for it. After you get passed that, things could get easier, and you can move from there.

    If things don't work out as planned. Remember that its not the end of the world. And that it just wasn't meant to be. Don't put too much hope in someone that you barely know. Not to say that you don't have a shot, but putting that much hope in a stranger can be dangerous. So, whether the outcome is positive or negative, be ready for anything. I wish you the best of luck! :)

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    • mikhilamit
      11 years ago

      Thanks,

      Really helpful. Specially "infatuation" thing.

      The girl lives couple of houses next to mine. She just finished grade 12 exams. So I am assuming she is 18.

      She would look into my eyes whenever we come across.

      But whenever I try to get close to her she would turn indifferent to it. She tries to ignore it. So I am really worried whats on her mind. I am surely looking for a long term commitment.

      Something inside me is also holding me back from talking to her openly, I don't know, may be it is the age difference.

      Remember I live in India where society reacts foolishly to ones action and people are not mature enough to accept a relation with age difference of 14 years.

      What you think?

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  • Eveyana
    11 years ago

    I think love is love, whether or not it's reciprocated (as long as it involved two human adults). Many people often mistake unrequited love for "lust". I think it's possible for someone to fall in love with another person, even if the other person isn't even aware of the other's feelings or does not reciprocated. Hell, I even find it normal to fall in love with celebrities or your idea of them. Same with fictional characters.

    That said, I think most people who fall in love with celebrities, fictional characters or emotionally unavailable people often know when it's not going to work out. That doesn't change their feelings for their loved ones.

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  • lex-dex
    11 years ago

    How do you know she's 18?

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  • KaffeInjection
    11 years ago

    What the.... You need to talk to her, otherwise it will not go anywhere.

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  • ibreathelectric
    11 years ago

    I fully believe in love at first sight. The eyes are a powerful thing. Happened to me. Saw him. Locked eyes. Died. Now we're getting married. :)

    And hey, lots of girls like older men ;)

    unless you're creepy.

    then I would refrain from contact.

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