Is it normal to fall in love/lust for a guy who my friends hate?

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TL;DR: Is it normal to fall for people I've once hated, and is it normal I like this guy my friends call a dick even though we've never actually talked for a long period of time?

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They've complained about him in the past, even calling him names (behind his back obviously) such as "Lord Dickington" and stuff. They compare him to a cartoon character who is a crazy perfectionist, and often quote him.

As a joke I said that I'm going to marry him. He has no idea who I am and has only seen me a few times, but we've never directly talked. Joking again, I pulled out some paper and a pen and wrote "love letters" to him. They were all in humor and stuff, and I wrote things and tried to come up with clever stuff.

For some reason, after a while, I found myself to REALLY liking him. I keep telling them I'm joking which is great, because they think I'm joking too, but I actually kind of like him! It's been for a few weeks, almost a month.

For some background, I've often developed online crushes on people I've got into arguments with - for some reason arguing with people makes me WANT them! And when we become friends I'm like "nope...not sure how I ever liked you."

The thing is, I've NEVER talked to him before, meaning I've never argued with him before. But they tell stories of how much of a dick he is and I'm just attracted to it! No, he's not a "bad boy" or anything (farthest thing from it, really) he's just their senior and gets to boss everyone around pretty much.

Too bad he has a girlfriend. And he's probably a genius so he wouldn't want me anyways.

Is this a problem? Is this normal? I've only kissed one other person in my life but I really just want to make out with him.

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Comments ( 21 )
  • ygrowup
    11 years ago

    Wait no longer, make your move! Don't live your life with regrets! Good luck with your choices!

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  • Ldizzy1234
    11 years ago

    Like who you wanna like... and if it should blow up in your face in the end, you'll learn from your mistakes. But it could also be a nice experience too.

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  • that_kid_over_there
    11 years ago

    I'd say that was pretty normal. You can't help who you like.

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  • PapzBSlim
    11 years ago

    Unfortunately, this is normal especially for girls. I notice girls like arguments and/or drama in relationships. Not all, but most. If a guy seems to be too perfect or acts how a gentleman is supposed to, it is unacceptable. Most girls I think just want something to talk about and complain about to their friends. I do not understand why you would want a guy to mistreat you or your friends.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      He actually is a gentleman, just a bit bossy. He's not like the typical douchebag, Tom Cruise or Chris Brown type, hell naw.

      And I'd never complain about him, just that he's bossy and pisses a lot of people off (and thinks very highly of himself) I find funny, and cute.

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      • PapzBSlim
        11 years ago

        I see your point but bossy is a bit on the side of mistreating others. He has no right to act higher and demand things from others. You may be alright with a person like this outside of the box, but once you are inside of his box, you may see it different. If he thinks highly of himself, just be cautious that he does not think he is better than you. It is sometimes better to be involved with a guy who is humble and thinks of equality and appreciates that some people are better in some categories and that he may excel in other areas where others usually tend not to be. Just be careful about him thinking he is better looking or personality wise more superior than you. You have all reasons to like him, I just am trying to caution you.

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  • iEatZombies_
    11 years ago

    Lord Dickington is the best they could do? That's just silly. Tell your friends to get more creative if they're going to be jerks. Pathetic.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      LOL will do.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    It's because many girls want all the attention from their friends, a guy will take that away and it frightens them.

    Many young women like this need to be in groups 24/7. Because they are under developed and pathetic without them, no personality of their own.

    They often try to break the couple up, just so their friend will hang out with them more. It's hilarious, they are an embarrassment to women.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      But I'm not friends with the girl..? I don't think you understood my story completely.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        I don't think.

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    • dirtybirdy
      11 years ago

      Jealousy. Its sickening.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        The funniest part is when the others get boyfriends it's different lol.

        Double standards and all that.

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  • mlbryan44
    9 years ago

    Suck him off. That is the only answer.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Lied?

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  • Fyre
    11 years ago

    As of last week, due to me moving, I was forced to break contact with someone I was in love with. I originally hated her so much. I wanted to kill her. Literally. But, after being around her a while, I fell in love with her. I literally was obsessed with her. In a good way I mean. It was more or less love at first hate. However, she toyed with me and so on. Because she more or less betrayed me, all my friends hated her. All of them. One of my friends, who had mental problems, even offered to kill her for me. Of course I rejected, but the more people hated her, the more I loved her. I felt bad for her. However, as of last month, as of today, she pretty much took everything I loved about her, tossed it away, and told me to shove it. Turns out she never liked me. She liked someone else, who actualyl hated her. After being betrayed by her five times over, mainly cause others hated her, I loved her more. However, in the end it turned out bad, because when someone hates someone else, it will make things more complicated. I feel that by moving without saying goodbye, or how much I loved her, I betrayed her in return. So, now I hate her, and myself. Mainly because of my own failure and my own self denial.

    Tl;Dr: Yes, it is completely normal, but if you don''t give 100% commitment to your love for the hated person, it will ruin your life, and more importantly theirs. If it is only lust, or not complete love, it will be bad for you.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    You are so young and you need to learn so much.

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    • mlbryan44
      9 years ago

      And you need me to give you head!

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  • Ldizzy1234
    11 years ago

    I don't see why you would like an asshole. Maybe the fact that he is an asshole, and your friends know he is, worries them. They probably don't want you to like someone that they know could hurt you.

    But another thought I have is; why do you care whether your friends do or don't like the guy you like? Like who you wanna like.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I think I worded my story incorrectly, nobody seems to get it. He's not a total ASSHOLE that would beat a girl or anything, he's just bossy. But he's really no THREAT at all.

      What I mean is is it normal for me to like him JUST because they complain about him so much.

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      • Ldizzy1234
        11 years ago

        Being bossy can still be considered a little bit of an asshole trait. So still be cautious in case you do decide to take things further with this guy. He might not beat you, but he could end up being an emotional abuser.

        And I don't really know what to say about it being normal or not that you like him, because they complain about him. Maybe you just like being in opposition with your friends. Are you an obstinate type of her person?

        Or maybe since they complain about him so much, it got you thinking about him more, and paying attention to him more. You began noticing that he's not as bad as how they make him out to be.

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