Is it normal to fall in love immediately, all the time?

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Every girlfriend ive had going back to my first in 5th grade (10 yrs old), i have fallen deeply for. If i get dumped ill spiral into a depressive, self-loathing state. I figured that was just the name of the game for alot of relationships but ive noticed that when i meet a girl i find attractive and likeable enough to think about dating and not just a hook-up... i get that SAME feeling, I'll start doing every positive thing to better myself FOR her, and if i get the slightest hint that shes not into me... ill throw it all away and lie in bed n do nothing.
i know SOMETHING is wrong, but what is it??? Why do i fall so hard in the first place... i know i react a little extreme but i wanna know why that feeling comes on SO STRONG for me even after a 2 minute first encounter...
help? please? thanks?

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  • shuggy-chan
    12 years ago

    dude you have to learn to tame that. i used to do it too, but #1 its a lil freaky to other people, and #2 is unhealthy to invest so much of yourself so fast into someone. you gotta protect your heart man, that thing is fickle and delicate

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    Sounds unhealthy.

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  • dodokind
    12 years ago

    Sorry to be the one to say this, but if you see a therapist, they will tell you that you have self confidence issues. Always being able to attract people is a good thing ( I guess), but always falling instantly in love? That's not good for you, your career, and especially your personal development. You are going to run the risk of getting divorced in your 30's if you let women put you through this all the time. You need to build up more self confidence and self reliance before anyone will be able to truly love you back as an equal.

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  • Quiblum
    12 years ago

    haha, sounds just like the tv show Alfie C:

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I thought i felt like that to then i realised i dont know what love is!

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  • finchandfriends
    12 years ago

    i have a friend and this happens to him all the time.

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  • hustleTrees
    12 years ago

    theres a difference between being in love and being in lust.

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  • YngPoly
    12 years ago

    There is a movie you should watch "Scott pilgrim vs the world" there is a scene where he fights the villain for the girl he loves with the sword of love. He looses the fight, when he uses his 1up and fights the Gillian with the sword of self esteem and wins. Get the moral of the story?

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago

    Maybe it's because you fear dying alone and at the same have a low self esteem. I use to be like you in jr. high school. Any girl who talked to me and was nice to me I would immediately fall for. However, heartbreak after another made me sort of weary of love. I'm surprised it hasn't for you. I guess my advice would be to just be careful of who you fall in love with. I mean, view yourself as friend material and wait for the girl to tell you that she likes you instead of you making the first move.

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