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Why can't I reach orgasm when I'm with my partner? I have no troubles by myself. He knows what he is doing and has plenty of experience but when he performs oral I cannot come! Same during sex! What's the deal?
They're obviosuly doing soemthing wrong. Or you're emotional status is unfit. Tell himyou don't liek it and get him to try something else. Like pushing harder with his tongue?
my only other recommendation is to have him watch you please yourself. he can see what works for you, join in, or just enjoy the show...
all that which was said before might be true but heres my answer to small
Did you have any previous experience with these activities (oral sex, intercourse) with other men / previous partners? If yes, were they able to bring you to orgasm or not? Or is he your first partner with whom you have done these things?
Not being able to orgasm with a partner is very common among women. How long have you been together? Sometimes it takes time to get to the point where you can. Try buying a vibrator, if you don't already have one, and masturbating in front of him or having him use it on you.
We have been together for 2 months. And I do have a vibrator but I'm too nervous to use it with him around.
it's still a young relationship then.
Perhaps part of the issue may be that you're trying too hard to come.
And quite frankly if you have to "fake it" then you're doing your partner a disservice with the lies and you'll only make things worse.
By lying you're telling him that he's doing it right, so he'll think "this works, i'll keep doing it" so... you'll create your own hell in a way.
Frankly, it's ok not to orgasm. you're with him because you love him. the orgasm is a nice treat, but the real fun should be making love to him, not just the spasm at the end.
it takes time to get to know someone - both in love and in sex. you can't rush it