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Well I think I'm ugly as hell. Because I'm fat. I obviously have low self esteem but I like to fake an identity and talk to other people as if I'm actually her. I talk to these people everyday as if I lived her life and everything. But I feel so sad because I fool them into believing that honestly mean. I'm just wondering if anyone else does this?
It is more common than you think. Some people just aren't comfortable with themselves and like to pretend to be something they are not.
There isn't much harm in it for others if you never plan to meet them in real life.
But seeing how much people like the fake you and how much others (might not) like the real you, could make your self esteem even lower than it already seems to be.
So in short, you are only hurting yourself.
Yeah, I agree. I can't think of anything worse for your self esteem than believing your friends only like a fake version of you.
Let me ask you a silly question: Why do you think that being fat means you "obviously" have low self-esteem and are "ugly as hell?" You can still love yourself. Body shapes and sizes change tremendously as you go through life; learn to love the one and only body you'll ever have, help it stay healthy and embrace the fact that it can change.
I think it can be a fun game to put on another persona in, say, a roleplaying game or on the stage or in writing, but it shouldn't be something you do to win the approval and affection of others. Why not put the creativity and effort you've devoted to creating your false front into fiction?
You mean non-fiction. But +100 likes. Both you guys.
And yes I do this sometimes. Because I sometimes I lack confidence in who I am as a being I will pretend I'm a character from a show or movie. And if I'm that person, then I'm really not 100% myself.
I think in general I try too hard to be something I am not, yet. But now nobody in my life actually understands who the fuck I am. And it makes me really sad. So my advice is no, don't do that.
Be the best version of yourself that you can be.
When I was younger, I had to wear a mask (metaphorical) and pretend to be something I wasn't. I wouldn't say that for me that I wore it due to insecurity. I grew up in an abusive situation and I wasn't allowed to let people think something was wrong. On the other hand, my sense of identity, my beliefs, my personality, (etc.) got stifled and I was expected to have views that the people around me had. So, often times I would pretend to agree with them so as to not make myself stick out.
I don't really think that it's normal, but sure that there are many other out there who either do it or have done it.
Please watch 'Catfish'! What you are doing isn't fair. The people you are talking to are presuming you are who you are pretending to be. They are NOT talking to you. I understand how you feel but this is not the way to make it better. Learn to love who you are, I know that sounds cliché but honestly its true. It took me 20 years to realise that but be yourself. Is someone doesn't like you for who you are they aren't worth it.
It's more fun if you are honest about who you are so you have the possibility to meet these people. There's a lot of people out there that have depth, just have patience. Make new friends online and this time be who you really are to them. Then, you may be able to start a real relationship, friends or whatever. Try craigslist?
One day you will become the people you pretend to be... that will not be fun... thats just how things worrk, child