Is it normal to experience random periods of depression?

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Hi,

Thank you in advance for your help.

I am first year university student and i have been experiencing many changes lately. Im 18 and i'm a male. I am of indian decent, but I am fairly light skinned and I fit in fine. I am insecure about this and feel that this is an unattractive feature. For a while I would go through periods of depression. The periods would last 1-4 days, and I would feel happy, almost right after. In my happy states I would smile for no reason, knowing that I was back to myself. Unfortunately my satisfied state only lasts a couple days, I then return to my depressed state. During my blue days, I would constantly criticize myself. For example, I hate the way I look, I feel unwanted, extremely self conscious about how thin I am, how I used to have many friends who were girls and in university its scarce, how i'm not funny, how no girls are attracted to me, how I question what I am doing with my life, how girls only like big strong guys,. I would rather stay in my room and all day than face my peers. I would hate life, and I would be jealous of those who appeared popular, funny, and thrived in friends. I also feel I am unproductive with my day, I literally do not do anything. I want get break fest, go to the gym, talk to friends, but there is something i cannot get past. These numerous insecurities are fucking with my head. This has been occurring for about 4 months now. I feel like a lack friends (which is not the case), possibly because the amount of students I am surrounded by. I would really like to have some friends who are girls in my life, just so I can feel wanted, and more secure about myself. But I dont have confidence to even go for it, I cannot think of anything to talk about, and in my head I freak out and leave the situation as soon as possible. This is not normal for me I was the opposite in highschool, I would go to starbucks, parties, houses, studying, all the time with girls as friends (some of them I even had something for and they knew, yet I got through the awkwardness). I want to know why this has changed.

Contrastingly, when I feel happy I am not caring about many of these issues. I truck along with my day quite content with myself.

I dont think I have listed all the thoughts in my head, which is impossible because some new ones come every day. My mental state is drowning in self criticism and lack of self confidence. Any suggestions would be appreciated.

Is this normal.

Cheers

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  • Psychosocial
    13 years ago

    As long as it does not last beyond about two weeks. Feeling blue is ruled by hormones and stuff, and it is usually temporary.Some people turn these temporary bouts into long-term dispositions because they make a mountain out of a mole hill! I mean they start panicking that they are losing it and then they do. It is mind over matter. We are equipped with a mind so we can use it to regulate our emotions and not let them regulate us completely.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    13 years ago

    It's hard making friends in college. Why don't you talk to some old friends and get back in the groove of talking to people?

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  • CaptainObvious
    13 years ago

    Women get periods all the time.

    They get them all the time!

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  • xino00
    13 years ago

    "I want get break fest, go to the gym,"
    then go to the damn gym!

    Freaking hell, people moan about something and want to do something but cannot do it!

    Just like fat people "i want to be skinny". Then WORK ON IT! You don't sit home soaky up and saying you want to be skinny.

    You want to get big. Go to the gym, do what ever it takes, do it on your free time. Do lots of exercise when you are at home. Trust me man, if you want to achieve something in life you have to work hard at it!

    I am short, I dislike my height, and I hate it most when I am next to someone taller than me especially a kid taller than me:/ But I did something about it, joined the gym, attended all the time. And look at me, I am big...not HUGH but big in chest built. Now I don't worry about me being skinny and short. Being built and short is good enough for me.

    Change your life style, change your hair style, people will be used to your usual hairs style. Come up with new hair style once in a while and people will know how different you look and they will complement you. If I keep going to school with dreadlocks, do you think I would ever get complimented?
    If I at least go to school with buzz cut, people will notice I look different and will compliment me for it.

    It's all about change man!
    But I'm not saying you should be a wanna be gangsta or not cocky.
    Just change your life and be yourself.

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  • Wierdmyself
    13 years ago

    OMG! I know how you feel, I thought I was alone. Have u ever had a girlfriend... that may help some...

    But yea, I've felt this way a lot. I met, well reconnected with a girl "friend" I used talked to in high school and its awesome. I couldn't feel more complete. Right now I'm fighting the fear she'll leave me.

    But yea, I have this problem. I'll get distracted by stupid things, and b all unproductive. Sometimes, I look n and the mirror and almost think I'm handsome... and then realize, I'm small. And that maybe I'm just some stupid creep no one would want to talk to. That no matter how much I try, I'll always b better off dead.

    My advice, find interest hobbies. And find a social circle, and when u feel alone... talk to some one anyone. Then u'll successfully stay "to occupied" to feel unhappy for long.

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