Is it normal to expect my girlfriend to be there on my b-day?

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Hi all, I’ve been dating and getting to know this girl for the past few months, but have known for a good couple years. My birthday is coming up on A Friday and she has a wedding to attend on Saturday, but there is a pre-ceremony or some type of an event that is on the Friday which falls on my Birthday and has known about my Birthday for quite some time. (Shouldn’t she be planning something for me?)
She is saying we have to celebrate my Birthday with the following weekend. But I feel my Birthday should be celebrated on that day or that weekend only. To me, I feel it defeats the purpose to celebrate a birthday of someone “you care” about on a different day. I guess I expect a more of a person! Do you think this is normal or I’m i being too weird? Actually I’m kind of pissed off about it. I'm starting not to like celebrating my birthdays! Anyways I’d like to hear some of your opinions?

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    This isn't normal. You've gotten yourself way too worked up about it.

    You're an adult. If you wanted her to be there for your birthday, you should have asked her. She has other commitments now, and she isn't obligated to throw you a birthday party anyway. It's a nice thing to do, but you're not entitled to it. There's nothing wrong with celebrating your birthday on a different day, and it doesn't mean she cares about you any less. Plus, you have a birthday every year, whereas that wedding will and the associated events will only happen once.

    Do you throw a party for her every year on her birthday, by the way?

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    • Mark2012
      11 years ago

      Thanks your comment. This is the first year we are actually dating. But when her Birthday comes I would make time for her on that day. It's not really a question of her throwing me a B-day party. But a question of being there. But I think your right. I'm getting myself too worked up. :)

      I just thought that the first year of a relationship with serious potential. You'd be there for your guy or girl on that day. I don't really look at it in terms of what is entitled to do. I just do it to show her I care.

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    I couldn't be around from my girlfriend's birthday (she had to see relatives) and she couldn't be around for mine (she was on holiday). Both of us felt a bit bad about not being around for each other, but it wasn't the cause of an argument because we'd a) had a lot of communication about it beforehand and b) birthdays aren't really that big of a deal to either of us. I wanted to have fun on my birthday even without her there, so I went to a music festival with my dad and we had a great time. Then we celebrated my birthday together the following weekend and we did the same with her birthday when I couldn't be there for that. We would both have much prefered to be there for each other's actual birthday, but we were on opposite sides of the country because of commitments we had for months so it just couldn't be done.

    At the end of the day, a birthday is just a day. Showing to someone you care about them on that one day isn't any more important than showing you care on any other day. Much more important is that you show you care at all, regardless of what day it is. Show you care every day if can :)

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    I think you sound like a fucking queer anyway so why worry about her, get a gay boy who will have a nice partay for you and some of his bum-chums...

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