Is it normal to expect her to call b4 she comes by?

If you gave her a key then you need to deal with her stopping by. You acting strange prolly made her look at your laptop. I bet if you acted normal she wouldn't have bothered.

Granted, before I moved in with my man I did my best to give him a heads up call every time I came over but sometimes it didn't happen.

As a person having mild social anxiety, I greatly appreciate knowing when someone is going to be coming over. I need a moment to prepare myself for social interaction, but I don't feel that way towards my boyfriend with whom I live. Although, if I didn't live with him and see him every morning when I roll out of bed, I wouldn't feel the same way. Like the poster said, a call even just a minute before she arrived would be enough. Some people don't like being surprised and it may have nothing to do with "having something to hide". I am certainly not saying that's the case here, but I'm just putting it out there that not everyone who dislikes surprise visits is up to no good! :)

this doesnt make sense to me. why give her a key then if you wont let her use it. sounds to me that you are still hiding things from your girlfriend and comparing your supposed serious girlfriend to "unannounced company" is rude. i dont think you are ready to have a serious relationship and you should take that key away from her until you are ready.

did you hit her when you argued? sounds guilty to me!
GUILTY!

Anyway no she can come anytime she freaking wants! If you are hiding something or suspected of doing something wrong, then you would tell her to call before coming over.

You say you are serious so I dot see a big deal in it you chose to give her a key. And in doing so you have given more privacy . I think once a keys are exchanged you are saying "here I trust you, come over when over freely" yes a call is always nice but if you did not mention that before you gave her the key and then now bring it up it looks suspicious.

Don't be mean about it, just say that it is your pet peeve, and you would like for her to tell you before she comes over. I don't think she would mind.

I agree with this 100%. Just because you're in a committed relationship does not mean you have to sacrifice all of your privacy. I'm terrified to give a key out because I like to look like a homeless person on weekends. I want my boyfriend to see me as sexy, not for me to have to take a shower so I can shave my legs as soon as he walks in the door.

Yep she should've called ahead. That's just common courtesy.

I dont think its unreasonable that the just stopped by.....you gave her the key! that allows some privilege. If it bothers you that much, let her know you prefer that she call first.....if you make a big deal and fight with her about it, makes you look guilty as hell!

well by the first two words "my woman", you sound like a complete prick who is a control freak. i hope she finds a nice guy who wants to be with her and not just have her around when you feel like it and call her inconvenient when you dont. give her back her key, tell her to find a nice guy and then try to better yourself as a person.

I agree with you, i like a call too

Sounds reasonable to me. And is also the principle of it.