Is it normal to enjoy not having close friends?

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I have lots 'friends', but mostly co-workers that are buddies and aquaintances. I don't have a close friend and I haven't hung out since 2005 when I graduated H.S. My husband is the same. His friends were toxic and he told them he didn't want them around anymore as long as they were stealing (from us) and lying to everyone. My husband and I are best friends and we really enjoy each other's company. We've both admitted we think friends are too much work and drama. If I'm off, someone isn't until 8 and you have to wait. If I'm working, then someone wants to go out of town. We are spontaneous people and love not being tied down with kids and friends. Most people I know would like to hang out, but they want to do the bar and club stuff. Or sit inside and watch movies and talk about boring life stuff. I'd rather watch paint dry. I would rather just go home and go do something fun with my spouse or just eat dinner. I'm not saying we're 'more fun' than people I know I just don't want to work to talk people into going fishing or dragging their asses up a mountain to go biking. We both ride sportbikes and no one else we know has a motorcycle. They just want us to give them rides. Pthh. I guess I just like knowing I'm with someone that has the same interests and who is will and available to do something spontaneous?
is it normal to enjoy not having friends?

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Based on 72 votes (52 yes)
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  • flax
    11 years ago

    Agree with all the posts above!

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      *below :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    your marriage sounds fun , you have the closest friend that is so nice

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    That sounds pretty great actually. :)

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Normal, but I'd make sure not to restrict your communication to one person. Close friends require commitment that sometimes even I don't want to make. Especially ones with kids. Sometimes I want to have mature fun and that's difficult to do when I'm having to lug my friends kids around with us.

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    • drumandpickchick
      11 years ago

      I can see what you mean, but I don't have anything to talk or communicate with other people. They don't need to know what's going on my life because I'm not interested in theirs either. I don't like hearing potty training stories or the woes of "I might be pregnant" with random guy you're seeing. I know it sounds kinda bitchy, but....

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      • NeuroNeptunian
        11 years ago

        Sounds kind of bitchy? Yeah, it may be, but I agree with you. I hate hearing about that shit too, so I normally just keep male friends as company. That's usually a complaint I get from female friends and I don't really give a shit about it. They can find friends that do, you're not the only person on the planet.

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        • drumandpickchick
          11 years ago

          Exactly! I have never had girl friends...may 1 when I was 7, but all the others were boys. I never enjoyed the company of other females. I was and still am a tom-boy. I introduced one of my old guy friends from HS to my husband and now they're really good friends. He's probably one of the only friends we have. Mainly because he's a busy guy too and we get together and ride motorcycles. He's a low maintanance friend lol! We know were still friends if we go without seeing or talking to him for 30 minutes.

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        • drumandpickchick
          11 years ago

          Yay! Glad I'm not alone, but sometimes wish I was LOL!

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