Is it normal to enjoy my abusive relationship?

My bf and I have an interesting relationship, and sometimes it scares me. Most of the time, he treats me like a child. He never lets me have my way, and yells at me if I do anything to upset him. He never lets me tease him, make a joke at his expense, and when he is angry, (Which is fairly often) he screams and yells for a very long time. Sometimes he even breaks things. When I try and take something that he doesn't want me to have, he will slap my hands, and when he wants me to do something he will push me, or even swat me. Sometimes this all makes me mad. I never asked for any of this, and I really think he is bipolar or something. However, there is a part of me that finds a thrill in being treated like a helpless child. There is a certain thrill when he yells at me, and makes me cry and apologize. And when he hits me, even though it terrifies me, I think about if for days afterwards and feel small and helpless, and content. In the end, I usually end up loving him all the more after one of his outbursts. Am I weird?

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Comments ( 22 )
  • EngineerTom

    Get the hell out.
    I'm gladly willing to kick this guys ass for you.

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    • Except that abusers like to abuse, you being the next victim almost certainly in that scenario.

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  • Captain_Kegstand

    Either some sort of masochistic nonsense like dirtybirdy stated, or you are "liking" it as a coping mechanism. If you are afraid of being away from him, you can fool yourself into thinking that you like to be abused!

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  • Mando

    This sick and abusive behaviour has twisted your views of your relationship with your sadistic BF and your judgement about your sick situation way out of shape. Get to an abused women's help centre, get a plan, get out.

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  • dirtybirdy

    Some sort of masochistic nonsense perhaps.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    It sounds like you are severely emotionally dysfunctional yourself. A normal, healthy, sane person would realize that they are not in a good situation and walk away. You are emotionally dysfunctional in a sense yourself because you believe that you are not worth the effort it would take to leave him and you enjoy the emotional turbulence that your relationship puts you through because you are unstable yourself and can not enjoy stability.

    You're facing the possibility of this man destroying you, killing you, harming the ones you love and actually fucking up your life. I know it seems fun to you, but don't be like every other idiot on the planet that thinks that fun moments are worth destroying their damned lives over. Get some therapy, figure out why you hate yourself, leave this asshole before he seriously harms you, get a restraining order and a fucking gun if you have to, and find a BDSM colony if you still feel like being treated like shit will turn you on. At least with them, they'll stop when you ask.

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  • emi.l.y

    Yoo need too get out of that relationship, it's not good for either of yoo & I don't know yoo but yoo probably deserve more than that, good luck (: x

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  • angellduvall

    It's normal for you to feel comfortable in a situation like this when you come from a fucked up background. I come from a fucked up family and hometown where I was constantly put down, and now I feel comfortable being with men who treat me badly. I know it sounds horrible, but that's life for a lot of this.

    Is it probably "normal" for some people to get used to being in an emotionally abusive situation? Yes. Is it healthy? No. At least I know it's not healthy. Some people don't even realize it. And I'm not trying to justify it, I'm just telling you that's how things are sometimes.

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  • NeonLighterz

    He's probably a sadist, or a controlling jealous guy.

    Personally, guys like this tend to be more kinky, but their personality is horrendous. It's not a good relationship if you can't handle it.

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  • Mason556

    Wait I thought girls were you shally the a holes in relation ships uh ya kick his ass

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    • Yeah, girls are usually the a holes, and they get away with it all. That upsets me even more.

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  • Mason556

    So you'd rather go with a axe wielding homacydial maniac then normal people

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  • pandaman

    Dafuq.

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  • keeping_up_with_da_kids

    Good guys never get the girls.

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    • GeneralFelix

      I am the living proof.

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    • Mason556

      Awwwww damn it my special tee

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  • Short&2thepoint

    Haha, no-ones going to convince her. I had a friend like this, and theyre stupid enough to never stop. No it's not normal, and quite frankly, i hope he brutally injures you badly enough that you finally see and get out. Stupid blind girl.

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  • fullhouse

    Don't encourage the asshole! you are not only bearing him but making him think it's normal to hit a female..fucking asshole!

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    Women love bad boys. More evidence

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  • KeddersPrincess

    Women like you make the rest of us women look bad. Will you enjoy it when he breaks your neck? And please don't try to play the "victim role" when you end up in the hospital. Remember, you had the chance to leave him, but you didn't want to.

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  • rock-chick

    get out dude(while u can)

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  • alv1592

    I don't know you but I know some people want drama in their lives just because they want sympathy. Could that be the problem in your case? Also, you know if you stay with him it will only get worse, right? You need to get away from him permanently. Find someone better.

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