Is it normal to end a relationship like this?

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I have met this girl on the internet who is very nice and I like her a lot... The only problem is talking to her has taken a lot of my time and I just can't anymore. I don't have feelings for her but I don't know why I want to be with her. I want to be with her but at the same time I don't... I have mix feelings and don't know what to do.

I would appreciate if someone who had an experience similar to this could help point me in the right direction. I know there is a low chance that we will ever get together again so after I dump her, there is no second chances... And there is also the fact that I could hurt her if I told her it was over. She is very sensitive and we do know each other as if we knew each other in real life.

I can't keep this up forever but I think she is the one... but at the same time I just have this overwhelming feeling telling me to end it and i'm torn. I know it would be a low chance of me ever meeting her. If I do end it, it can help me but hurt her.

I want to know what to say... I can't hurt her too bad and she needs to no its not her fault and accept that we could not work out just cause... who I am. I'm not a trusting person and even if I think I trust someone I really don't. I can't trust just cause I don't think i'm capable.

I would be very thankful if you could vote and comment to give me a voice of reason for this... its so nerve-racking putting up an act. Its taking a toll on my life and at this time, I can't afford that.

Thank you to all who help.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Just tell her you're super busy at the minute and can't be in contact as much as usual. Just let the relationship die a natural death by fading away - then you won't have to hurt her at all. She will get bored with you not being there for her.

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    • beastie
      12 years ago

      Great answer IMO!
      Tell her you've started volunteering or travelling and get off the computer a lot more. She'll get the message and move on.

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  • myownopinions
    12 years ago

    End it, but let her down easy if you can. The fact that your relationship is internet-based means that she will probably rebound quicker.

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