Is it normal to end a relationship due to long distance?

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I started dating one of my childhood best friends roughly about 2 years ago. A month ago, he told me that he was moving. Although it bothered me, I would not have minded having a long-distance relationship. However, just recently, he told me that he disliked long-distance relationships; he did not understand them.

"What's the point of a relationship we're going to see each other for less than 1/4 of the year? I'm not going to be able to be there for you. Maybe if we were adults or if one of us had a car a distance relationship work out, but I don't know."

Basically, he broke up with me due to the fact that he did not want a distance relationship. He claims that the only reason he ended it was solely because of distance: he claims that he still has feelings for me and continues to comfort me. According to his friends, I should hang on especially since they claim that he really cares about me, which is pretty evident already.

Despite all of this, I am very insecure. I'm scared I'm going to lose him. He means a lot to me. I am hoping to get a car in a year or so, but I'm afraid he'll forget about me by then. I am just so confused by all of this. It doesn't help that I already suffer from depression.

TLDR: My previous boyfriend, who is also my childhood best friend, ended our 2-year-relationship due to the sole fact that he is moving and does not want a distance relationship. Despite this, he continues to comfort me while his friends claim that he still cares deeply about me. I am just so confused by all of this.

Now, have any of you encountered a similar situation? Is this normal? What do you think? Any other comments?

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    I'd never get involved in a long distance relationship ... But you guys have been together for about two years AND you have hopes to get a drivers license in a year, i'd say that you SHOULD have a stabile ground to work from and these days you can communicate pretty damn well through the internet.

    So basically : If i KNEW that a new relationship were going to be distance, i'd withdraw. But if a stabile and good one from years of dating had to become distance for a limited amount of time i'd give it a go.

    Even though i'm that kinda person who gets REALLY FUCKING SAD without the company of the one i love.

    You guys should talk!

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  • kelili
    10 years ago

    I would be scared to have a long distance relationship too. For me it never worked (I've tried thrice!!!).

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Hmm. It's nice knowing that some people are afraid of long-distance relationships: this is not as abnormal as I originally thought it was. I think I've started to understand why he chose to end our relationship. :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I dated a guy for a year who lived across the country and then broke up with him due to the distance. We unofficially got back together and now he has done the same thing. Distance kills relationships and causes heartbreak like none I've ever experienced.

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    • shuggy-chan
      9 years ago

      *Double Hug*

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        Ball shit tittie mcfuckery. Boys suck.

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        • shuggy-chan
          9 years ago

          life sucks, then we die. It what we do in between that matters.

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          • [Old Memory]
            9 years ago

            Whenever something bad happens, all control I have over old demons is gone, and this suicidal, self harming, bulimic crazy chick claws her way out. It would be better if you were dead, you should go cut yourself you worthless POS, yeah, you are fat, how about you go throw up, fattie, go die in a rotting hole, no one loves you, you are not worthy. Barf. Go back in your cage, *smosh voice* biiitch! Half of me wonders if others have this problem but I am positive it is normal.

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            • shuggy-chan
              9 years ago

              most do, to one degree or another, i just know someone was there, when i was truly alone and lost, so anytime i can be their for a "FRIEND" (your not just a random person, your my buddy) I will gladly be there for them

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            • [Old Memory]
              9 years ago

              https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dA-8H2LmCb4

              Biiiitch!

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          • [Old Memory]
            9 years ago

            I need to do something productive...

            I need to get stronger. Leaner. Find some hidden nodule of inner beauty, like a sad ember, and reignite it. I need to gain skills, learn to love myself (I have been relying on others to do that for me for far too long), and focus on myself. As much as I freaking love that son of a bitch, he drives me crazy and turns me into a horribly jealous, angry, an negative person sometimes. It will be good for us both if that was not the case any more.

            It's the first time in years I have truly been alone though. That part makes me sad. And it's like a carpet has been lifted out from under me. He is too good for me and he finally figured it out, so bleh. Time to put a little elbow work into my body and mind and be the finest honey ever to be let go.

            It's nice to write my thoughts down into concrete statements. Thank you.

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            • shuggy-chan
              9 years ago

              anthy, your a gem. No guy is too good for you, he just wasnt the right guy, thats all. I been thru the same shit, and had my heart stomped on too. But it like you said, its important to love yourself. You seem unusually negative for such a sweet girl. so in my objective opinion. i think this break is good for you. you need to validate yourself, not live to have others do it for you.

              Also your welcome <3

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  • Flippin-dillydogs
    10 years ago

    I agree with you.

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  • Peaches&Cream
    10 years ago

    hi there, im 19 and you could say that im in a long distance relationship. .my boyfriend is from the place where i go to college and im 3 hours away now Im home for summer. .he attempted to end it with me out of convenience but he couldn't look me in the eye and say its over because he felt strongly about me. .i insist to this day that it doesn't matter how far the distance, love or affection remains the same. you need to remember this! The key to keeping your relationship is to be realistic about how often you see him and make sure you fill him in on day to day events. .also it would be very worth while to show him what he's missing, so send him a dirty pic or let him know youre feeling hot, inject some spice to keep him interested!

    I would love to share more stories,
    a problem shared is a problem halved from one lonely heart to another. . Comment back if you'd like my email address or phone number

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  • shuggy-chan
    10 years ago

    And how old are u exactly?

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