Is it normal to drive a halfhour to go to applebee's easter

We do they are really weird, like all my sisters in laws come and it is fun. They are very weird like keep a ledger of what people pay for presents so they can give them the exact amount back. They have a baseball card book filled with coupons in separated protectors, as well as when they park they only pick "end spots" because "less likely" their car will get hit. We have Sunday lunch every week, and they don't come. The father was laid off and I got him a really good job, I had to find a new one because of possible nepotism too! You ALWAYS have to take your shoes off in the house. Why they had open house they made people wear surgical booties. I helped them hook up their entire electronic system, computers, printers, burnt them CDs. At 23 I bought a house for their daughter even though I wanted to move south so I could afford something bigger I stayed here cuz they wanted us to stay so we live in a smaller place. THEN after all that and complaining about seeing their daughter not enough, THEY MOVE 30 minutes away not cuz they had to but because they wanted a bigger house! So now every holiday we drive there and back wasting time missing my family on holidays just to drive there. We see both of them; both sides of her family morning and night at two different times, and they still complain that she didn't stay for dinner only for presents, when in 3 hrs we have to drive to a different town to see fathers side. My father died suddenly from cancer and ONLY her dad came, and that is because everyone from the job I got him came together, it just doesn't seem they are very other family oriented they only care about theirs even though we are very accepting, it is like they don't want to be part of our family or are just weird. We are very down to earth they are fake snobby. They call their tiny office room their "Study" and this tiny den "THE FOURTH BEDROOM" idk what it is they just don't try to be apart of our family. Still to this day has not even acknowledge at 23 I bought a house for us. My therapist honestly seems to think he is jealous, because I technically "HAVE" his daughter, more education, am more intelligent, only reason he has a Job is because of me, I work out a lot and I'm muscle bound he works out has no noticeible "work out" look so maybe it is that. I try joking with her sister, but she ignores me or pretends to get truly upset. It is just how they are. I always dress very nicely and act polite, but everyone I go over there they barely talk to me, or maybe force conversations but never ask me how schools going, acknowledge the fact my dad died the same year I bought a house. Nothing is even acknowledge I have a 4.0 in a nursing program they never ask me how school is going or anything about house EVER. Thank you for your reply.

You go to your family and she goes to hers: you're not conjoined twins, are you?

Why not invite her family to your family's easter?