Is it normal to drink before meeting the girl i like?

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So ive been talking to this girl for awhile now (3 years) and we have just begun to hang out recently(i know i have no game). But i work myself into such a panick i completley destroy my self confidence so i compensate by drinking to be more relaxed. I feel like im cheating her by not being myself and i dont want that because shes the only person in my life who i care about.Is this normal? And any advice for self esteem?

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Based on 30 votes (14 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Just remember its a fine line between being relaxed and being drunk.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    thanks for all the different opinions. Ill be rethinking my strategy for now on

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  • mauwpauw
    11 years ago

    I really don't agree with LovingLifeBestICan, because that would make you look really arrogant and that won't leave a good impression. Just try to be yourself.

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    • LovingLifeBestICan
      11 years ago

      No that would stop your fear, he needs to turn the tables and walk out with the mindset 'she wants me, she loves me and she knows it' and start keeping that frame through the entire interaction. Take it from someone with experience

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  • Marisol
    11 years ago

    It is always hard to do the right thing. By drinking you are letting yourself lose. The first thing you need to do is stop drinking before meeting up with her.

    You are who you are. Drinking is actually something that helps you in that situation but in the long term is doing you no good internally. Your self-esteem will not improve if you don't stop what you are doing. You are becoming dependent on alcohol. If you continue to do this, you will eventually hit the wall.

    I know what it is like to feel nervous and I know that she means so much to you. But ask yourself: won't she mean much more if you show her the real you, and she excepts you for being who you really are.

    Do you know, there is always that little bit that we need for our lives to be complete; to be just the way we want it to be? Sometimes, life works against us, but for our own good. Had you not cared about her so much you would not have done what you have done.

    That being said, just because you lack self confidence does not mean that you have to rely on alcohol for support. Try to be strong. Do the best that you can do to show yourself that you are better than you thought you were. Try it next time and see how it goes.

    You have nothing to lose. Be strong man!

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  • LovingLifeBestICan
    11 years ago

    You are already half way in the hole just by the 1 st sentence. Go out ant talk to other women, your probably already sending out the 'I hope she likes me' vibe. Thats a killer. You should be sending out the 'She better hope I like HER' vibes. That way, you are in a position of power and you are doing the screening. Women aren't gonna like this post but oh well lol i been with lots, and I can tell you for a fact it works

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    • Alafoak
      11 years ago

      It's true make them chase you. If you can't crack the egg move on but never burn your bridges. Work on all women without being a scumbag, fat, hot, black, white, rich and poor. Hit on them all and don't expect anything, eventually you'll get the hang of it and you'll be able to pick up almost anyone you want. It also helps to be attractive.

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      • LovingLifeBestICan
        11 years ago

        True true. And yea it def helps to be attractive lol. Here I have a tip for him that I doubt he'll read. Go out anywhere and say hey how is it goin( mixed with high 5's maby) ? To 15 people. Including hot girls, then start going up and talking to women..then go on your date.

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