Is it normal to drink alcohol to deal with things better?

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I haven't had the greatest few months. It's like I've had one problem after another.
And we all know, it's that time of year where you feel a bit lonely. I've been single for a while now. I'd just like to have a man there for me, to care about me.
I fell for someone, but he has a girlfriend, who is a no good piece of shit. I know her from years back and she used to sniff lines of coke whilst pregnant, at 17. Her boyfriend is amazing. Yet I work my ass off all day trying to get somewhere in life. In general I am just a good person. I have a massive reputation for being nice, kind, funny and innocent. And I can't get a man! At all! Not even a man who treats me like shit! It's like men would rather be with women with no aspiration, coke addicts, teen mothers. What has the world come to?!
But anyway, I've started drinking a lot. Just typing that made me cry a bit because I know it's bad. I don't want to really do it. But it makes me handle life a lot better. It numbs the pain.
is it normal to use alcohol for when you feel down like this? I'm scared I'm going to develop a problem.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    Alcohol does make a neat temporary escape, doesn't it? That's the problem. If it didn't, nobody would bother with it. It's easy to sit here and say you shouldn't do it or that it'll make things worse in the long run (it most likely will) but that doesn't exactly help.

    You do have something quite positive, though - you know what you're escaping from. You know what you want. You said it clearly right up there in the question.

    Christmas isn't a great time to be alone. I don't think anyone would blame you for a little escapism. But New Year's Day is just around the corner. Why not treat it as a new start? Make resolutions. Make an action plan for getting what you want in life. You commented on your positive attributes (also a good way of thinking, when going about meeting someone). You sound like everything could work out just fine for you, given the right opportunity. So it's up to you to go out and make that opportunity.

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  • Quizguy
    11 years ago

    Drinking makes me feel like shit and accomplishes nothing. Try weed it makes me very introspective and helps me with my issues. Good Luck and quit drinking.

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  • paulpmcmahon7
    11 years ago

    But it never ever works

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Many people do it, but it is not healthy nor recommendable. Depending on other risk factors in your life and in your past, you could become either a functioning alcoholic or a full-blown alcoholic. But if you have this much emotional turmoil and you use alcohol to escape from your problems rather than dealing with them yourself, then its very likely that you will become some type of alcoholic. Not judging you, I've had similar problems in my past and I know others that did and still do. And now i'm over it so I know the warning signs and I'm just calling it how it is for your own good.

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  • flowergirl87
    11 years ago

    Yes, it is normal to manage things better once you've had a drink - why do you think people drink so much on nights out? It's to give them a confidence boost. Trust me, I've not had the best year either and at times have just felt like having a drink to try and numb negative emotions, but I KNOW this will only end up adding to my problems. It's good that you've recognised you don't want to develop a problem - you know what to do from here. Stay strong and don't give yourself another problem in the form of alcohol addiction - please. It's such a massive waste of life.

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  • Unimportant
    11 years ago

    Been there, done that.
    In fact, I've "been there, done that" yesterday.

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