Is it normal to dream of your dead ex? and missing him after.

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I was with my first love for 3 years, we lived together for 4 months. He was my first everything and we broke up because he ended up having a baby with someone who was my bestfriend. So we stopped talking and I never forgave him for that, he wasn't the most loyal but I was so dumb -.- for thinking he would change. But we stopped talking at the end of 2014. I would still think of him and I never admitted it but I still loved him, but I wouldn't go back to him because I just couldnt. I couldn't be with him after the baby thing.

Well he died this January, I didn't find out till about a month later. But I did dream about him around the time he died (I didn't know he had died) I thought it was weird because I hadn't dreamed about him in so long. But after I found out, I kept dreaming about him. I dreamt about him last night again and when I dream of him, I wake up and miss him. I just wanna see him again and spend some time with him, like in my dream. I don't wanna miss him because of all that he did to me but I can't help it. I miss him a lot, then time goes by and I realize that he was an asshole to me. And it goes away, but then I dream of him again and I miss him again. -.-

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    I can imagine this would be very upsetting for you, but you CAN help it if you want to: for a start, try telling yourself as you get ready for sleep that you will dream happy dreams tonight OR that if you do dream about him you will stop the dream and wake up or change the dream to a happy one.

    This is a bit like an echo from the past and it will pass if you don't hold on to it

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  • AB1234
    7 years ago

    That's a poignant story. Sorry you're hurting. I think it's very normal to dream about people we feel strongly about. And unfortunately, we don't get to choose to fall in love with people. Or if I'm wrong, I hope someone will explain to me how that works.

    Peace...

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