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I am a 22 year old woman and I have recently found out I'm gay. I have only told one person, and now I can't sleep because every time I close my eyes I see her, and I keep having dreams about kissing her. I'm scared a bit, because the feeling is weird. I have known her forever, but telling her would potentially ruin our friendship. Should I tell her?
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| No | 10 |
If I was female and in your place, I would tell her that you realised your bi or gay, and just ask her how she would feel if you might maybe have a girlcrush on her. Keep it light and easy talk, and maybe she might be curious too, she may not feel at ease enough to tell you she might have a girl crush too.
I know this feeling, because it happened to me. (Except I'm a guy)
The first time it happenes it's hard. Because it's a very pure form of love. Ohh.
You've said you have told your friend you are gay. And by far I think that she has been supportive with you. That's really sweet from her and it's wonderful you have such a friend like her. If you do know each other for a long time, maybe you should confess your feelings.
But from my experience I have to kill your faith.
Please, try not to be too enthusiastic about the outcome.
I am not saying that you are declaring your love towards her and that you want her to love you back, but confess that you have very strong feelings towards your friend and you want to know what does she think about it. If she really is your friend she will understand your position and (hopefully) your relation will even get stronger.
But... There, there's also the possibility of complete rejection. You must be prepared if this happens. It's a possibility and no, it won't be easy.
It will be painful. You may suffer a lot from this. You may cry thinking of this. But this is how hearts do learn.
Your friend is the first one. Is one of the many love interests your life will have. And you have to reevaluate the situation. You want things to keep the same? Or want to make a change? It's a crucial first-decision. And you will never know what would have happened if you did or did not tell her. And there is a point in your life where you regret more what you didn't than what you did.
So I say, go for it. Prepare for the worse, hope for the best.
And reply if you want to know how my story with this guy endend up.