Is it normal to dream about cheating?

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Every now and then I'll dream that I either almost cheat, or actually do cheat on my girlfriend with another girl. I always feel the most incredible shame and guilt afterwards, and most of the time I only seem to "realise" that I've cheated afterwards, but it still bothers me.

I hate the idea that I would ever be capable of cheating on her and I know that the shame and guilt I feel in my dreams would be what I'd feel in reality too...

Is this normal? Am I just a horrible person who wants to cheat? Does it mean that sub-consciously I'm not satisfied in my relationship? Help!

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  • JeremyCoster
    13 years ago

    Holy shit thats so crazy, i have dreams exactly like that. And i always feel so guilty and feel like i've fucked everything up and ruined our relationship. I think that these dreams reflect our fears and the fear of losing our girlfriends because im sure like me you love your girlfriend a fuckload and will never cheat on her.

    So don't worry about it man i think these dreams are just projecting the worries in our head and theyre more showing that we care so much about our girlfriends especially the fact that we both feel so incredibally guilty afterwards. And I dont know about you but Im incredibally satisfied in the relationship.

    So dont worry your still a good person and im sure your satisfied in the relationship. You just care :)

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    Agreed with above comments. Dreaming about it doesn't mean it's going to happen or that you are unsatisfied in your relationship. I have dreams that my guy is cheating or doing things to ruin our relationship. It's all fears that come out in dreams. Don't worry about it.

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  • quentari
    10 years ago

    Probably a projection of a subconscious fear that you will screw up your relationship without realising it until it's too late.

    Possibly means you're not satisfied in the relationship, but if it's people you don't know I'd assume it's the first one.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Hey it's normal for sure! You can't control your dreams, okay MOST people can't control their dreams, and it doesn't mean jack crap unless you make it happen. Which by judging from your reactions of the dreams, you wouldn't ever do. So goosfrabba and everything will turn out fine :)

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  • JeremyCoster
    13 years ago

    lol just heard from my girlfriend, she had the same kind of dream. seems like its incredibally normal :)

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  • window48
    13 years ago

    bob the builder yes he can

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  • Mitsyrules
    13 years ago

    I've had similar dreams as well with the same feelings afterward. I've read that it actually means that you really care about the person you're with. :)

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  • MeisterWolf
    13 years ago

    Dreams only mean something if you let them. You can't control every dream you have (you might want to research lucid dreaming if you want to even attempt that!).

    Another important factor is who the person you're cheating with is. If it's someone from real life, then it is a little more scary. The problem is, the more you think about it, the more it happens.

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