Is it normal to do this on dates

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I've always paid full price for dates for as long as I've been dating. However I was speaking to a friend who likes to split the bill, I thought this was stupid because men always pay for the girl for good first impressions and if you want a second date. When we got further into the conversation he began to make more sense I even asked my mom out of curiosity and she said she always pays half even on the first date with anybody because she always maintained the image of being financially independent. My question is should I start asking for half the bill. Whatever your opinions I won't hate on you.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    I think it depends on what you're comfortable with and intention. I was raised in the South so guys pretty much always paid. If someone asks me out, and I really just wanna be friends I will want to go Dutch. I have a dear male friend, and personal mentor and we take turns when we go out to eat or go have coffee. I've taken a man out and picked up the check and honestly my thing is as long as the person being treated isn't taking advantage of the one picking up the tab and essentially using that person. Additionally I also think it's important that the person picking up the tab (myself included) isn't putting any sexual expectations or demands on the person he or she is treating to the date. Above all people there ought to be respect and care for one another, otherwise what's the point? If someone thinks dinner, a movie and some drinks entitles him to my muffin then I'd just as soon go it alone. I ain't got time for ulterior motives! I'm a big girl, I can take myself out if I so choose.

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  • Freedom_
    8 years ago

    Unless you word it just right, asking her to split the bill could sound doucheish. It's not doucheish, but it could come off that way, esp if you initiated the date.

    The last time I dated I paid for tips and coffee because my finances were low. I was relieved that the guy didn't mind paying all for that reason, but I thought it was silly that he thought that made him a man.

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    • ALESTORM
      8 years ago

      This posts getting a lot more love than I expected I always paid because I thought it was etiquette rather than what made me a man. Thank you for your contribution but you paid for tips and coffee so I give you props for that:D

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  • PinkHairedFreak
    8 years ago

    You know, a really great woman will ask to split the bill anyways.

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    • Freedom_
      8 years ago

      This. Or at least pay the tip or take turns with the bill.

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    • shuggy-chan
      8 years ago

      Or finally post a pic of her purple hair

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      • PinkHairedFreak
        8 years ago

        My purple experiment failed. I'm just going to go back to brown for the first time in 5 years.

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        • shuggy-chan
          8 years ago

          Awwww well maybe next time. And brown isn't bad

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  • Quintarius
    8 years ago

    I am a guy. In the past whenever i paid for anything, the girls always lost interest in me quickly. Its a chump move. So nowadays i always make the girl pay and it works great actually. If she doesnt pay, then i dont go out with her ever again. I like to see that kind of interest and investment early on. It sets the tone correctly. If a woman has no respect for her man then she will grow to resent him later on so its important that she learn her proper standing early on. Later on when respect has been fully established, then the man can begin providing financially

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    • PinkHairedFreak
      8 years ago

      I don't think it's necessarily a "chump move." It is more about wanting to treat someone you're interested in because you want to impress them a little bit.

      I think if a woman was extremely interested, she may want to treat you. However, that is bucking against tradition a bit, so not all women are brave enough to do it since it is a little uncommon. I've found that switching who picks up the bill is a pretty good way to keep "even" if you really worry about it and are having multiple dates with the same person.

      There is an exception though. For the first date or two, whoever does the asking gets to pay. If his/her companion offers to split the bill on the first date, you politely refuse and pay anyways. The person who you invited will probably be wowed at what a generous person you are. It's all about that first impression! After that though, it is definitely great to split the bill or switch on and off.

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      • ALESTORM
        8 years ago

        This is a great attitude to have if your willing to split the bill on and off that's not taking advantage and keeping it even

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        • PinkHairedFreak
          8 years ago

          I mean, I don't really ask to go to fancy lobster dinner places every time it's his turn to treat because I think that's taking advantage, and if you like someone, you shouldn't take advantage. There is great food to be eaten at many different prices, so I keep it under $20 per person.

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    • ALESTORM
      8 years ago

      Interesting that's exactly what my friend said it does make sense finding out who's genuine and who's not

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  • FJK_frm_AK25
    8 years ago

    I'm a guy n I insist on payin on any date especially if I was the one who asked u out

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  • Steve2.0
    8 years ago

    It's normal if you're a sexist douchebag who still lives in the 19th century. Honestly, paying for the whole meal implies that the female can't support herself. It's like saying: "I'll pay, because you're just a woman and I wouldn't expect you to have a job."

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    • Steve2.0
      8 years ago

      And Hitler paid for his girlfriend.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    If it is a romantic evening, then I believe that I am responsible for the cost of the evening, especially if I've asked her out.
    If one wants to make the statement that this is definitely NOT a romantic evening, then by all means go dutch.
    As antiquated as it is, paying a lady's way is one way of showing her that you can be a good provider.

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