Is it normal to distance yourself from a long distance relationship?

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Recently i moved out of state due to things i could not control.
so me and my boyfriend are 600+ miles apart.

But i dont want to be in a long distance relationship. His phone is off so all we can do is text. Thats not a relationship

I love him more than i've ever loved anyone and we have alot of love between us BUT like i said be fore all we can do is text. My father told me one too many times "if you cant see it taste it touch it or hear it, its not there. " not his words of course lol but still. he said it.

I would prefer to go on break until we can make the means to get back together physically. That wil take the minimum of a year. theres truly no telling how long this will take.

But i just feel like he the right person at the wrong time, if its meant to be it'll be. if i set it free and it comes back, its meant to be mine. and honestly, i feel like im in a corner. i feel like he has me nailed screwed taped super glued or whatever to a corner. and im not ready to be in a relationship. i need to breath and think about me without consequences to someone else. not sexually but mentally.

i need to make choices and not have to worry about how they affect him. cus i know what i want in life andi can get there better off by myself. RELATIONSHIPS are a real distraction for me. and he doesnt feel te same way.

So i distance myself from this long distance relationship. i dont talk to him too much. i dont say i love you back anymore. i dont show him any love of any kind. and its mainly cus HES NOT HERE. Which depresses me and i dont like being sad because it makes my whole state of mind change. So i distance myself from him uncontrollably..

Am i in the wrong or is this normal?

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  • Audacia
    10 years ago

    Sounds like a survival mechanism you're naturally going through because he's no longer a potential mate for you. Most women can't overcome their thoughts and wait it out for that long. Guys can with logic so he'll probably be more upset.

    But i can understand it. But you should tell him without making him feel shit prolonguing this. Having the woman he loves stop saying she loves him etc over time not knowing whats going on sucks.

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    • Paradiddle
      10 years ago

      I'm going to go with this response. PLEASE reconsider not showing him attention as a response to your feelings because let me tell you, from someone who has experienced that kind of treatment, it is the worst thing you can do. Its like saying "I know everything we had was great but in this final hour, I'm going to disrespect the whole thing and make you feel bad by protecting my feelings and making it easier on myself." Just be honest with the guy on how you feel as soon as possible, upfront and kind about it. He'll be sad but he'll appreciate your honesty even more down the road, I promise.

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  • Beyond_infinity
    10 years ago

    If you guys really love each other like that , he will understand that it's in you guys best interest to take a break (:

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  • 3rdXsTheCharm
    10 years ago

    It's a harsh reality and it sucks that you and him have to go through it. But try to talk gently to him about your feelings on this subject and yeah it's normal.

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  • plum6
    10 years ago

    so no one made a commenting about him DISTANCING himself from a LONG DISTANCE relationship yet?.. hmm..

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