Is it normal to dislike your wife?

Unfortunately it is normal in most cases to not like your spouse. I have been in the exact same situation as you...and I can tell you that your wife resents you. She resents your health, your work ethic and everything you do that is positive around the house or in the relationship. This resentment is what makes her be the opposite of you... Its a hard thing to live with I know, but the only thing I can suggest is that you focus your thoughts on other things. I would also be willing to bet that she has or is going to make the kids be more like her and less like you as well. Truth is she hates you just as much or if not more than you hate her, only as a woman she can never just come out and say it, because it will reveal her jealousy of you. The sex thing is also sadly a normal thing, and it really makes me laugh when I see Viagra commercials and read magazines that talk about how a man can turn on his woman. As if its men who are lacking emotion and sex drives. This is a true womans nature to not except responsibility and put everything off on men. Fact is that by a very wide margin men want, enjoy and perform well in sex and have a healthy sexual desire. Its the women who are lacking in almost every way, that is once you marry them. I would also suggest that you start squirreling some cash away and prepare to leave when the time is right. Make this work for your advantage. Keep doing the things you do, try not to get upset or end the marriage too early. It is worth it in every way shape and form to stay married until the kids become 18. Keep yourself in good shape both mentally and physically, and when you are ready just leave without looking back.

Marriage benefits women, not men.

You got suckered dude,just like every other married sap in the world.

Don't even bother trying to divorce her because she will get everything and you will have to pay for it, especially now that you have kids.

LOL @ people getting married. Good God what a joke. I don't know ONE man who is happily married, and I'm sure most women aren't either.

We shoot out 3 million sperm when we ejaculate but we're supposed to be married and have sex with 1 women for our whole life? Sorry, does not compute.

Sounds reasonable, If I were you I would want to kill her by now.

I can relate to what you are saying I've been married three years and my wife and I don't really have the same interested but you have to find the good in every situation. Communicate how what she does makes you feel, and maybe get some good marital counseling. She sounds depressed maybe you two could talk to her doctor about temporarily putting on her on some meds. Be encouraging though.

You want my HONEST opinion? She sounds like she has Borderline Personality Disorder (my wife has it and your story describes her pretty well). Differences are my wife is VERY attractive, beautiful, does her make-up and hair and takes care of our daughter and lately has become WAY less-lazy around the house. Google Borderline Personality Disorder and tell me if that doesn't describe her, and then try to bring it up to her in some fashion so she might get on medication for it. Also if this does describe her to a "T" get a book called "Walking on Eggshells". It's a book written for people in relationships to help them deal with BPD significant others/family members. Hope this helps and if you have any questions let me know :)

My friend i wish u well.Leave her its not worth it.All these other people are full of crap,I know what its like there is no answer but to leave just try not to abandon the kids..

My Wife is so nasty toward me; always miserable. She is always yelling at everyone in the home. She hates my puppy dog she cosigned on. She has a short fuse with my kids. Never considers others until the very last minute and then a scramble will unfold to patch things together... Obviously we are important enough here. She is always starting a new hobby or career and never sees a single one through completion; which means she basically bags on the family while pursuing her latest dead end time consuming act of selfishness %%u2013 how about enrolling the kids in something without me. She sleeps a ton. She is always late for everything. Doesn't clean up after herself around the house; you know the deal, opens a microwavable meal and leaves the box on the counter which leads to snowball of crap/clutter. She doesn't take care of appearance. She doesn't dress nicely. She doesn't exercise. She has a new self prescribed illness weekly. Instead of spending money to look nice she spends it on take out/fast food. She likes to put me down in front of family and friends while sensationalizing stories; basically she puts my shit out on the street from her fantasy perspective. She doesn't know what pleasant is our how to fake it. She's confrontational and always has to get the last 3 paragraphs in before ending an argument she usually starts; she will become physical and mentally abusive if I don't listen. Waiting to discuss what's on her mind until later is not an option regardless if the young toddler/pre-k kids are in the room. I've come to find we are on completely different intellectual levels without similar interest. She gives the kids whatever they want so they won't bother her lazy self. Now they are difficult to manage and show signs of emotional issues due to mom acting out. Just looking at her make me sick. We don%%u2019t sleep together. Sex occurs bi-monthly. Things would be so much better if she left, I have asked her to go, but she refuses!!! Am I a saint %%u2013 no! Just tired and worried that I will do to my kids what my parents did to me if I try and leave to pursue happiness. Not sure I know what that is anymore. I just know I am happier and a nicer person when she%%u2019s not around breaking me down physically and mentally.

Join the club. There are many times I hate my wife. We have not had sex in over 11 years, and we no longer even have a desire to (at least with each other). We argue almost every single day. She is a pain in my ass. I work long hours, earn a great paycheck, and have provided her with a life such that she has not had to work in over 20 years. She is a miserable bitch.

I would get rid of my wife in a New York minute. If I can find the easiest way to do it. No matter how much I do she always wants more like I am her slave. In this day and age people shouldn't be married. If I were to ever get married again it would be with an oriental chick. They have a great desire for their men to be happy and pleased. They don't like looking for spouses they like to get one and keep one

In short dump the bitch. I plan to

Unfortunately, this is more normal than not. I've been married for 16 years, and I'll skip the details as they have all been named already in previous comments. I've considered divorce, even asked for it a couple of times. But no, still married. Before I get to the meat of my post, a shout out to all the never been married people that have posted here, you'll see... one day, you'll see. I grew up in the presence of a strained marriage that eventually worked out. I am now married to a woman who exhibits many traits that have been listed before. Before you ask, she was different when we were dating, once we hitched, she either changed or dropped the act. I think it's the former more than the latter. Not a day goes by that I don't fantasize about not being married. I don't want an affair, I just wish she would wake up, grow up, and realize that she would be happier with someone else. We do have children, and they are my primary concern. They are the ONLY reason I stay with this woman. I have voiced my concerns, my wishes, my goals and dreams with this person. I could have had the same conversation with the stepping stones in the yard and done as well. I'm not perfect, and I refuse to put all the blame on her. I simply think that divorce would vastly improve both of our lives. In my experience, talking is just mental masturbation, and gives little satisfaction to either party. As a rule of thumb, if you are unhappy, talks will do little to change your situation. Try a separation for a while, if you can do it. Two of those actually save my parents marriage. It took one of 'em two times to figure that all the talk was real and meant something! Just remember, children first in all things, and only do what you are able. Good Luck!!!

Do you even care about her? I don't get that impression. Little compassion. You dump on & judge her but are not concerned, except about your self. Something to think about: is she sad about living with a selfish man?

ok i love my husband but i do everything for this man i work i clean before work after i get home from work an before i go to bed i cook all his meals even make his lunch for work everyday i lay out his work clothes as well as his towel and bed clothes he never takes me anywhere and bitches more than any woman on this earth hes a I I Me Me person he never cleans after himself never takes out the trash an he always says hes too tired for sex i'm not fat i'm 105lbs and i make sure I look good everyday what gets to me is if i have a headache or just plain tire an forget to lay out his clothes or what have you he will yell an scream an put me down i know people are thinking what the heck is this woman doing staying with thi man well i couldn't tell you all I know is if anyone is in the same situation with or without kids please don't turn out like me truely a waste of life

She is probably tired from the kids and doesn't feel up to cleaning and cooking, she's probably on the computer all day because she needs some fun in her life.. Maybe she's not the problem, take her with you to do things, take her out, help her with the kids. Women aren't that difficult to figure out, getting a divorce doesn't solve anything. Put a spark back in the relationship, make her feel worthy and things will improve .

Stay together for the kids. But I think she needs to change. Maybe you should talk to her?

Then again, don't listen to me, I'm too young to even get married XD!

Do any of you even remember what you fell in love with so many years ago?
I'm not married yet but I do plan on it.
Almost everyone on here makes marrige look like something to NOT look foreword to.
But in reality if you look back you loved them enough to be with them forever!
If not I'm sorry to say but you have no idea what love is.
All I have to say is to try and talk to her, and if it doesn't work then maybe she wasn't the one you got on one knee for.
I bid you luck....

Half end in divorce, half are silent failures, and the other half are highly successful.

I cant believe the amount of people on here telling you to leave your partner of 10 years.

Now i would agree with them if this was a persoanl attack by her, but you said it in your message that she is unpleasent to everyone, which should make anyone realise it isnt a personal attack.

Was she always like this?, or is it something new within the past 2 years or so..

Alot of people still dont know this but simple things can cause drastic mood changes. to much suger/caffine (as in coke) can make people really nasty. to much chocolate makes people lathargic which in turns makes them a little self loathing..

Best thing to do is sit down with your missus and tell her you think shes becomming a little agressive and you think you both need a lifestyle change, ditch takeaways and junk food for about a month and see if that changes her attitude. most of the time it will..

If she is unwilling to change her diet you can do it sneekily, like when she ask's for a coke bring her a smoothie and say "hey love i just made this for myself, why dont you try one its amazing"...

Hope this helps buddy..

No offense. I don't think you all should be blaming the wife. LOL. Women lose interest in a marriage probably because the husband does not make them feel attractive. There is no motivation to have sex. She is most likely depressed. Hence why she secretly hates you. You probably did your fair share to make her hate you thats why she is behaving that way. Women are caring and go head over heels for their men. Most advise your getting here is bull. Dont divorce her. talk to her instead, tell her you want her to lose weight, you want the old days back, work out your marriage. If you really care about her, you'll work it out with her, and Im sure she will listen if she wants to stay ( which I think she does because she has not talked about divorce with you). Putting away cash, will only make her hate you more, she is not jealous of you, she just stopped caring. Women should not be blamed for a bad sex life either. The person who said this lacks education, if a woman is content and is secure she will do wonders for you in bed. So give her that security, get her old self back! and stop thinking so negative, complaining and take action to make the positives in your life happen! Marriage is a beautiful experience, I actually know TONS of people who are happily married, trust me, guys who are full time bachelors are just boy toys for girls of the wrong type. They usually end up alone or with an STD, every girl wants a guy who is successful? why? because they want security and commitment. I suggest you voice your thoughts to your wife and listen to her concerns, you both can negotiate your way to a healthy relationship and a better family life. Dont give up!!

you should leave her and take the children. if she is so lazy then she wont fight back. you cant force the loe in a married. it is there or its not. if u dont want to divorce her religous reasons then tell her you want to move out, get some time allone with the kids. and if u dont want to do anything like i just said. make her want to leave you. stop cleaning, stop cooking, make her feel gulity, make her move. throw out or hide any junk food buy only heathy stuff make her move and workout. and if you guys dont have sex anymore maybeshe feels no passion or she is bored. people do role play for that. not to seem like a weirdo for saying that. get some trojan things. and if that dont work there r pleanty of strippers and hoes

well than why are you married to her?

it's not fair for her to act like this. it sounds like she is taking advantage of you. just because you're married doesn't mean she should get comfortable and stop trying. i don't think it's normal.

you guys need to revive ur marraige. sit down and have an actual heart to heart with her. its not hard to care about someone again if you really want to. everyone gets in like a slump area but you both have to realy want to get out of it without getting defensive

Dude I'm sorry you feel that way, but Marriage is War. The last thing you wanna do is give up and run. let her know that you care for her, stick by her and always be sure that anything you say to her comes (or at least sounds like it) from a place of love.

Don't think that it's her job to make you happy only you can do that and anyone that tells you otherwise is lying or just plain wrong.

If she point blank refuses to change its quite simple, maybe she's happy the way she is and if that is the case what right have you to stop her. Perhaps you need to look at yourself

Keep your chin up my friend.

I would be more worried if you DID like her.

dont listen to this guy sounds like he is really a geek...Get out of there man i wouldnt listen to some moron name geekmaster...

It's normal to have diffrences, but not to your extreme, although it seens saveable. Try a marriage counsler.

you got to get out of that situation its not good for you

Totally normal unfortunately.

Ditch the fat bitch!

It sounds like you%%u2019ve lost this battle no matter what you decide on one hand you have an unhappy marriage on the other hand you have a divorce and all the crap that comes with it.

I would sit down and talk with your wife explain how you feel about things because the things getting you down don%%u2019t seem that hard to fix.

However should that not work long term moving on seems to be the best bet to many people try to stay together for the kids and by doing this all they do is create a really uncomfortable environment for there kids to grow up in.

Long term (providing you spend time with your kids after you break up) I%%u2019m sure when they are old enough they will understand the situation and why you decided to move on, I would if it where my parents.

One thing I would do if you choose to move on is make more time for your kids than you already do now that way they wont feel like there loosing out, this and remember its not about buying there love with gifts and cash its about spending time with them.

I'm assuming you've talked with her about it. Asking is one thing, but telling her how you feel is another. Maybe she is going through depression.

omigod dude

I'm totally cool with stuff like weido-fetishes and party-drugs but when it comes to animal torture it just crosses the line
sick sick sick DAMN FUCKING SICK MAN!!!!

try seeing a marriage councilor. if she wont go with you, go alone. she might be clinically depressed and you two can work it out.

You should tell her exactly how you are feeling. If she puts no effort to make your marriage work, so you can still be with your kids and have a happy marriage, then you should get a divorce. It may be very depressing for your children at first, but be their for them every time they need you and continue to be an important part of their lives. Besides you have only one life, and why should you be miserable for the rest of it.

The easiest thing to do is to run for the hills and pay child support. Just, don't forget the child support.

And make sure she doesn't eat any of them.