Is it normal to dislike someone for this? (i'll make it short)

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Long story made short:
I loved this girl who kept breaking up with her ex-boyfriend, he always made her cry, cheated on her, hit her, made her feel worthless, we was really close I was always there for her but never got to telling her how I felt. Her ex-boyfriend was a good friend of mine. He found out how I felt about her, my friend hinted (but never told me truthfully) that she felt the same way and told him, they were separated at the time. This person was special, despite being beautiful, she made me laugh and was nice to me. So what her ex done was threaten to beat me up, and hinted he might stab me. I wasn't scared infact I wanted to fight him and wipe that smug look off his face and be nicer to her. She loved us both im guessing so she chose, she was choosing me, my friends went on my facebook and basically made fun of him, he of course knew it wasn't me, and wanted to become friends again, but wanted to know who done it. I would never put my friends in danger, so I said i didnt know, neither her or him believed me. She hated me. So did he. She chose him.

Is it normal I dont like him? Or should I dislike my friends for what they done?

If not for that one incident, she would have chosen me, even if I lost or won the fight my friend said.

I've been thinking about this for the past 2 years, I dont know who to blame, my friends, myself, her ex. Or her.

Please help!

P.S: I dont hate him, I dont hate anyone. I dont fear anything, except seeing her again, If i go out with my friends I'll see her, and him, he will probably fight me, I wont fight back now I have nothing to fight for. This one event, has stopped me being myself and stunted my growth as a person.

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Based on 59 votes (45 yes)

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Terence_the_viking

11 years ago | pl

You said short.

You lied.

I want a refund.

I like a girl who likes her ex even though he is a douche and she chose him over me because of what my friends did.

Thats short.

Thanks for playing.

Presented by LTDAN.

Sound like you need to ditch them all and start from scratch. These people aren't even fit to be your enemies.

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- Skitzo1
  
  11 years ago
  
  But isn't the word "short" defined by someone. Its not a generality, nor is it a precise unit of measurement.
  If you asked for a piece of string to be cut short, how would the other person who is cutting it know how short you wanted it precisely, you might have conflicted views of what is short.
  
  Its the same with long. This story could have been 2000 words longer for all we know, but this person shortened, what they determined to be a long story to what they deemed, short.
  
  The same "could" be said about what you deem is short or not, however its not your story to tell.
  
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  - Terence_the_viking
    
    11 years ago
    
    Sorry your reply wasn't short it made me snore.
    
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    - Skitzo1
      
      11 years ago
      
      Your opinion.
      
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        11 years ago
        
        I though it was onions thank you.
        
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        11 years ago
        
        No problem Onion Boy.
        
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- shuggy-chan
  
  11 years ago
  
  Shorter version,
  
  Everyone I know are cuntfaces. And I don't hate them. The end
  
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  - Flippin-dillydogs
    
    11 years ago
    
    Bravo, Bravo!
    
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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

sounds like the terrible twosome are best left alone, you dont need them, dont blame anyone, shit happens sometimes

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SalieciaSashaKittyKatt

11 years ago

Listen sweet heart.If she had chose that dick that hits her & cheats on her,then she doesn't deserve you.You can do so much better.You shouldn't let that stop you from being yourself.Go out & live your life.If he wants to fight you,you fucking fight back.Fuck them both & after that:LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST!!!!

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Beast70

11 years ago

That made laugh so hard its all like short story BAM the last Harry Potter book. Hahahaahaaaahaa

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squirrelgirl

11 years ago

Get some new friends and quit thinking about that girl and her ex boyfriend. They're not worth your time.

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hidden_in_the_shadows

11 years ago

if thats short what the hell is the long version

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ScooterNyne

11 years ago

I agree with LtDan. All of those people seem pretty bleh from the sound of it.

The ex was a complete douche bag(aren't they always)

The girl was pretty dumb for choosing you then choosing him just because of what happened on facebook. even after the ex did all those terrible things to her.
(no offense to her. Im sure she is a wonderful person but better decisions have been made)

your friends, while they may not have meant to, acted like 5-year olds and completely fucked up your relationship.
(my "friends" did the same thing to me once. never again bro. never again.")

Looks like it's time to hit the town, find some new friends, find a girl, and do what you were meant to do.
The saying, "there are plenty of fish in the sea" applies to friends too. especially friends. It's incredibly easy to meet nice people who will stick up for you and be your friend.

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- ScooterNyne
  
  11 years ago
  
  And if you can kick that guys ass then DO IT!! I hate, WITH A PASSION, men who mistreat women like that. It's disgusting and he deserves to know what it feels like to be abused. In any other case I would say challenge him to a gentleman's fight like a real man should do. But he crossed the line. get a group together and jump his ass.
  
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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

I think everyone in your story is to blame.

The boyfriend is to blame for being abusive.

The girl is to blame for being naive and repeatively returining to someone who is abusive.

Your friend is to blame for getting in your buisness and pretending to be you.

One thing Im confused on is that you said he is her ex but then made it sound that they are still together.

Also you said that you don't hate him and have nothing to fight for, yet you feel that he stunted your growth. I think that alone is enough to hate someone and kick their ass.
However only you can let someone else stunt your growth. My advice is to let this be a lesson of dealing with people like this.

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Flippin-dillydogs

11 years ago

Oh Mahh Lawddieh.

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Johnnytherat

11 years ago

pssshhhh facebook real gangstas still use myspace

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hidden_in_the_shadows

11 years ago

why did she choose him and why did she have to pick why did she go back with him if he's an ass
there are too many questions

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- Skitzo1
  
  11 years ago
  
  Its pretty tough to just walk away from someone you love. She would of had to pick because she cant have both, unless shes a bigamist, she had to choose between two loves. She chose him because this person "done" the wrong thing, that changed her mind.
  
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jim8255

11 years ago

fight with him then fuck her

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- FluffySheep
  
  11 years ago
  
  Fuck him then fuck her.
  
  ...wait.
  
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