Is it normal to dislike myself after arguments with my family?

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It seems that whenever I argue with my family about the tiniest thing, literally five minutes later I feel so disgusted with myself and I am just filled with self loathing. Admittedly my older brother can often be violent (which hurts, a lot - he is much bigger than me) and will bring personal insults into an entirely unrelated argument, but this self-hatred happens even with argument with my parents and younger siblings as well.

For example the argument could be about doing grocery shopping, but if i 'lose' I'll go off somewhere else to sulk, and within a minute I'll be sobbing and questioning if i am
A)more or less attractive than Susan Boyle
B)worthy of being seen in public without repulsing people
C)mentally deficient

Does anyone else get these random depressing feelings after family arguments or is this abnormal?

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  • abnormalfeline
    11 years ago

    Getting upset with your family is normal, remember that they wil always forgive & love you no matter what. Please try not to insult or use vulgar language when expressing your self...it will leave long lasting scars. Hate strives on pain so try not to be the cause and never keep secrets! My personal opinion if someone asks to keep one tell the to take it with them and don't keep family secrets you will lose them when it gets out. Hope I could be of some help.

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  • DuRieschtSoGut
    11 years ago

    YES, it's absolutely normal. I feel the same way if I have an argument with my Mom. It's just your guilt and your concious making you feel bad about it, which is a good thing as well because, it means you feel remorse for it, and feeling remorse for something means you're a good person at heart.

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  • KatieLiz
    11 years ago

    Same with me really. I'll always get worked up and say things I don't really mean, then 1 minute later feel like the worst person in the world.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Win or lose you are right to feel bummed that the level of interaction is an argument. They suck.

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  • audsam
    11 years ago

    Yes, I always get mad at myself after arguments with my family. What I've learned is don't raise your voice, improve your argument :)

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  • Devyn
    11 years ago

    This just shows that you love your family and become upset when there's conflict between you. Self depreciation is just an expression of this upset, so recognise it as such and don't worry too much about it. However you are overreacting so try to think more rationally about the situation. Like "yeah, I was wrong, or they didn't get what I was trying to say, but it's no big deal." Keep in mind that if you lose an argument it doesn't make you a worse person, no one is always right and no one can always express themselves perfectly.

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