Is it normal to dislike my mom's boyfriend?
My mom's boyfriend moved in with us about a month ago, with her telling me about it at the last minute. He's pretty well educated, and really isn't a terrible person, but I still don't like him all that much. He doesn't do anything to help around the house, not even as much as hand the phone over when it's right next to him. I don't mind him staying, but he could at least pull his weight around. He he's supposed to be staying with us, but he hasn't as much as applied for a job. I know he already has a resume, and he's not exactly unqualified, so I don't see why he hasn't at least put his name out.
He also acts really condescending to me and my mom, (though not very much with her). He'll watch me do the dishes and just say stuff like "why are you doing it that way? I would do it the right way." I fold clothes and put them away, he says "why isn't that sweater warm? Why are you getting rid of it?" If I haven't worn something in four years, I'm getting rid of it. He asks really annoying questions I have no answer to, then acts as if I'm stupid because I can't answer them. After I couldn't answer his "why isn't the sweater warm" question, he gave me a lecture on the difference between fact and opinion, as if I've never heard of it. I told my mom about it, and she told me to "just let it go. I know it's annoying." He also has nerve enough to ask stupid questions to my mom, and talk down to her in the same way, and say we're no different. If I say or question him in any way, my mom gets mad at me and tells me to apologize to him, but whenever he does it, I just have to "let it go."
I mentioned it earlier, but he doesn't do any chores around the house, and just watches everyone else do it. I don't mind working harder since my mom has a disability, but it annoys me that I have to work for him too. If I make dinner, he complains about everything that's wrong from it. If I bring something from a restaurant, he'll accuse me of eating some of his food. I got us McDonalds one day, and he saw that his set of fries weren't full, and asked me if I ate them. My mom offered him some of my fries to compensate for it.
What annoys me most is that my mom locks the dog in his crate all day now. This guy doesn't like dogs, so he has to stay in his crate so he doesn't' bug him. It's not fair that our dog is a prisoner because this guy doesn't like him.
There are countless other things about the guy I don't like, but I keep my mouth shut because I don't want to hurt my mom. She's known him since high school, and they only recently caught back up. I know he's a good guy, but I wouldn't want to live with him; he's fine when he's just with my mom though. I've considered moving out several times, but for now, I'm just waiting until I graduate from high school in a few months to move out. Is it normal to not like this guy? Or am I just being selfish? What would you suggest I do? My mom said he's moving out, but she never said a date, and I don't know how much longer I can take this guy.