Is it normal to disappear/hate (maybe) on my birthday?

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For several years now (about 10) i have been growing more and more resentful of my birthday. Its not about self loathing or jealousy. I never really liked getting gifts or being wished a happy birthday. I turned 30 yesterday and people are telling me that im gonna love what they got for me. To be honest i dont want anything. I took a drive out to our former U.S President Theodore Roosevelt's cabin in Oyster Bay, Ny to get away from everyone and just have some "me" time. Its sounds crazy to me, and at least i realize that. I tend to isolate myself from my family and friends. My family wanted to take me out to dinner at a restaurant but i refused. I hope its not selfish of me and i hope im not offending those i care about. Its always been hard for me on birthdays. Any advice maybe? Or am I just a big jerk?

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  • petrichor
    13 years ago

    Does the cabin have cooking facilities or do you have to buy food and consume it cold?

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    • u.y.a.h
      13 years ago

      No, its closed from winter till spring but the grounds are open to public. Its a museum but the property is very nice and no one goes there around this time of the year. I just had a cup of coffee with me

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  • steph413
    13 years ago

    While this is an uncommon feeling, it is normal, and people do feel this.. You plainly, don't like the focus of an event to be on you. It is a feeling you can give into relentlessly, year after year on your birthday, or you could experiment with accepting love and attention from your family. Their only purpose for taking you out on your birthday is to show you how much they care for you.. The question is, are you willing to accept it?

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  • Piconano
    13 years ago

    I understand how that feels. But I just let them take me to dinner anyway, because I know my dad and sisters love to go out and they need an excuse to do so most of the time. Heh.

    Sometimes there are years where my parents are too busy to celebrate or they forget, so I just have some time for myself. I enjoy it from time to time, but sometimes it gets a little lonely.

    You probably should just let them take you to dinner or whatever. At least they're giving you presents, I didn't get anything this year :\ After all, you should spend as much time as you can with your family. You won't regret it in the future. Just try to move past that desire and have some quality family time.

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