Is it normal to develop online "chat buddies"?

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Ok so I'm gay, closeted, and in college. For the past couple years I have been going on to chat sites and befriending people because I'm desperate to talk to other guys..anyway, I feel like a weirdo. One person in particular I have been talking to for over a year and I consider him my best friend. However, I became suspicious of his true identity as he did not have many pictures of him. After asking him, he finally admitted that he had been pretending to be another college guy...I am in disbelief. I know I should be safe online and I'm usually pretty good about filtering out the weirdos and fakes but this one I am CRUSHED. I told him everything (but only about myself and occasionally talked about a few friends) I feel SO BAD and so guilty and I'm scared. Only one of my friends knows I talked with this person. Other than that it feels like I'm living a double life...HELP I am freaking out

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  • tripw7
    10 years ago

    Take a deep breath. I have been in similar situation before and my thoughts were much worse than reality. Sounds like this guy was not out to get you. He was in some ways searching as well. Now, I think this is a good site for people to tell you the truth.
    Reply to me anytime and I will respond. Hang in there.....

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Just walk away.

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  • amaterasu
    10 years ago

    There is a movie and tv show called "Catfish" that is entirely about these kinds of situations.

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  • Phishy
    10 years ago

    The guy doesn't sound half bad, especially if he told you the truth. He sounds like he didn't want to give away his friendship with you.

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  • Stalіn
    10 years ago

    Yee

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  • hitchman
    10 years ago

    My dad is gay too

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    I honestly don't care about age or gender on any one of my online friends and I don't trust them being who they claim to be until I have seen them on webcamera.

    I have had online friends and met up with people for 7 years, since I was 15 and managed to stay safe.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    You mean he was a girl pretending to be a guy? Usually it's the other way round.

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  • tinkerbell_2k12
    10 years ago

    Have u watched catfish on mtv, watch that programme it shows loads of people lie about who they are online. Be cateful online

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  • lolol555
    10 years ago

    Well, hey, at least he told you. Online is an anonymous place and while, yes, it's sad he's not who you thought he was... People online do have every right to lie about who they are in chat room.

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