Is it normal to develop crushes on best friends everytime

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I doubt I'll get a good answer, but wth, I'm at a loss.

In a nutshell: I'm a female in my late 20s who ever since about 3rd grade has developed a strong crush on my best (female) friend at the time. This has happened 4 times now to date. (I have also had crushes on guys) The last female friend, I actually told her that I liked her in the hopes something would come of it. Needless to say that ruined the friendship. I have managed to steer clear of making anymore good female friends over the last few years. I am currently married and have a great relationship with my husband. Everything is going swimmingly. Except now he wants me to become friends with his friend's wife. He knows about my past history though I am not sure if he realizes how much it affects me. This girl is nice, cute, and I can already tell she is my type. 1. Is this normal? and 2. What do I do?

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Even if she's your "type", you should still be able to have enough self-control not to cheat on your husband. If you don't think you would be able to control yourself, let your husband know. Don't feel bad if you cannot trust yourself; a lot of people have problems with fidelity these days, you wouldn't be the first.

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  • ComboBreaker
    14 years ago

    Ofcourse it's normal. If you're bi then it's normal to look at both sexes even if married. Wether or not you act on your emotions is another thing entirely. You're married now, so the first thing in your mind is probly not to cheat. It's probly on her mind too, aswell as the homosexual thing. Seems like your husband wants you to have some female friends. It would be good for you to have same sex friends. You should try be friends with her, without changeing yourself around her interests. But anything else you do would be completly your choice. Reason I sugest making friends is because its good to have more friends. Good luck. Normal.

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    i think it's not normal. be friends with her, but keep your emotions in check. don't over do it, and if you feel you are falling for her, then back off. if you are old enough to be married, you are old enough to control your emotions. if you screw this up, it could end your marriage.

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