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Is it normal that a familly to be in denial of a parent's narcissistic or disorderd personality , that no one admits that she /he have it or there is something wrong , even though it's very clear ?
My mother is 'extreme' to say the least. I once suggested to one of my sisters that she goes to the doctor to get some antidepressants so as to mellow her hatred for the world.
My sister asked, "Who's going to suggest it?"
None of us were brave enough!!
yes in dysfunctional families major problems like addictions or violence are covered up. Some even manage to look happy to people on the outside. I know this from personal experience as I grew up with a mentally unstable parent who didn't get the support needed. Strangely, I didn't even realize until much later that things weren't ok, as that was the reality I had come to know and accept as normal.
It's common. It's a defense mechanism. I'm an adult child of a narcissist and I still look back and think, woah. Did that shit really happen?
I dont know if my father has a personallity disorder but he works 16 hours a day nonstop and when i tell him to quit his job he gets pissed off and tells me that he does it for the family. I actually dont care if he has a job or not but i wanna be able to see him everyday. Once he quit his job cause of his boss and he was so much happier... But then his boss rehired him with higher pay and he accepted the offer. The moral of my story is.. My father thinks that his purpise in life is to have a job and work all day till he dies.
It's common. We all act in public the way we are supposed to act. And then when the kids have problems, we give sympathy to the parents for having to put up with such problems.