Is it normal to date someone shorter/skinnier than you?

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Okay, apparently this is a girl's issue. I've been dating this guy for quite sometime now. He seems interesting and has a nice personality. One thing however that kinda makes me uncomfortable about our relationship is the fact that one it comes to body sizes I feel am kinda bigger than him. I'm not overweight myself. In fact I'm quite thin, my family used to nag about this sometimes! Anyhow he is thinner than I. Also he is not shorter but barely taller than me. I've always dreamed of marrying someone taller than me. But I didn't want to reject him cause of this cause I felt it's kinda shallow. But whenever we meet I keep thinking about this or keep paying attention to his body to see how tall or thin he is. Is this normal? Would you date someone whom u feel is smaller than you or whom you're not very attracted to?

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  • dirtybirdy
    10 years ago

    Why not. When i was 19 and 21 I dated guys that were only an inch or so taller than me and both were pretty thin. I'm not fat but I'm certainly not skinny either and it didn't bother me or them. So what's the problem? Personal preference is one thing but of its like a "society says so" kinda thing, screw that.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    10 years ago

    Thank you all for replying :) It's really appreciated. Like I was telling ScooterNyne here, the problem is not about society-conventions but rather my own personal preference :/ I don't feel 100% attracted to him cause of this weight/size. I am trying but it keeps creeping back into my mind. Maybe it's influenced by society too I don't know. I just felt it's shallow to reject someone cause of this but at the same time I can't ignore the fact that I don't feel psychically attracted to him :/

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    • megadriver
      10 years ago

      I'm a dude and I am taller and bigger than my girlfriend. I am 1.85m and I am around 85kg. (Yup, a big lug)She is 1.70 and weighs 45kg. So fragile and so sweet. So, yeah it's ok. I like thin Girls. I personally think that she is too thin. In fact she is skinny, but she says she is fine, so I don't question it that much.
      After all, you women and weight - Difficult toppic! XD XD XD
      And don't Forget - Opposites attract.

      BTW: Do not question capital letters in certain words. Using a PC with german auto-correct.

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  • ObsessedWithReedus
    10 years ago

    My bf is 4 inches shorter than me, and weighs much less than me. I'm not overweight, but I wouldn't call myself skinny either.

    Anyway, it's personality that counts.

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  • ScooterNyne
    10 years ago

    It's only weird if you make it weird I always say. I like girls taller and shorter than me. heavier and lighter.

    It's one thing to not be attracted to a guy that's shorter than you. perfectly fine. But a lot of times it's society telling us that the man should be taller than the woman in a relationship. And that of course is nonsense. Couples don't need to look a certain way.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Guess you somehow pinpointed the problem! Yeah I do know that's a society creation, but that's not the real problem. The thing is I don't feel physically attracted to him partially cause of this height and weight issue :/ I didn't wanna reject him cause of this cause I thought that's shallow of me. But honestly, I would have loved my partner to be bigger than I :/ Guess there's nothing wrong with that :/

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      • ScooterNyne
        10 years ago

        Well this is the way I see it. And I might very well be wrong but this is just a guess. I would say there are two possible scenarios.

        One:
        I don't know how long you have been dating this guy and how close you two have become. But if you are still holding his physical traits up to your preferences then maybe his personality isn't much to look at either. I certainly don't want to insult him or your relationship. I'm just saying that maybe even his personality isn't a great match and your paying attention to looks because of that.

        Two:
        His personality is great but you just happen to hold looks just as high as personality. This isn't necessarily a bad thing. Some people have looks weigh in more than personality and vice versa. To me, holding looks any higher than personality can be a bit shallow. But in the end they still meet someone and make a happy, shallow couple haha. Perhaps you value looks just a little below personality or maybe even equally. Once again not a horrible thing. You are justified to have a preference.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Sure why not it's not the height or the weight of a person that determines who they are.

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  • braintrip
    10 years ago

    I don't think anybody can get shorter then me.
    5'4". -_-

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    • ThousandPoundsOfGanja
      10 years ago

      My grandma and ex-gf were both around like 4'10" - 4'11" my ex-gf may have been 5' (I'm 5'9" btw)

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