Is it normal to date for over 4 years and want to be proposed to?

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 4 years. We're very happy together, and many people say we're the perfect couple.

We've talked about getting married and both agree that we want to wait until we're at LEAST 26/27 to take our vows (mostly because of it being a big expense we have to save up for, etc.)... But he still hasn't proposed to me.

I know he shouldn't "have to", but it's been almost 5 years, and we both love each other to death and have an amazing relationship.. But he can't seem to wrap his head around the fact that I feel like I've already grown out of the "girlfriend" label.

And we both agree that we want to be married one day, so doesn't that kinda mean that we're pretty much emotionally engaged anyway??

I've even told him I'd be happy to be engaged even without a ring (which is 100% true)... But he still is adamant he doesn't want to. This makes me feel like an idiot. I love him, but I don't want to wait around forever while he makes up his mind.

I'm just sick of being in this confusing limo period...Advice?

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  • Elegy
    13 years ago

    U love each other.I dont think paper or ring can change smth.Enjoy ur life

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  • mymylee
    13 years ago

    Yes I agree you do the proposing and just see what he says. Wish I was a fly on the wall. MyMy

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    well he could be waiting and planning for the perfect time and place and ring to propose to you. you know that you are going to be together and get married etc. so why push it? do you even live together? if you dont then its probably a good idea to get a place together to see how compatible you really are. living together makes or breaks relationships but its better to do that now than get married then move in together then end up getting a divorce and having to deal with all of that crap.
    but like i said before, dont push it. you are together so just love each other and cherish each other and when the time comes, he will propose. titles dont mean anything in a loving and caring relationship. just be happy to be with each other.

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  • soccer2
    13 years ago

    ^^thats a good idea
    Or just sit and have a serious talk tell him u want to get married and mean it. If it's really bothering u then give him an ultimatum. Or maybe he just isn't ready, in which case u need to talk to him about it

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Why don't you do the proposing

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    Maybe he is saving up for a ring. Even though you say you don't need one he may still want to do it the right traditional way.

    I agree 4 years is a bit too long to wait to propose but still don't push him. Never push a man to marry you if he isn't ready.

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  • Echoes
    13 years ago

    Don't push that, you'll lose him.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    13 years ago

    I have....

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  • christian39677
    13 years ago

    Why not just sit him down and tell him that?

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