Is it normal to date for a year and not have sex?

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So I have been going out with this girl for a year now exactly and we have not had sex. I respect how she doesn't want to have sex and I really love her so we keep the relationship non sexual. That was until 11 months together I said that is enough I'm a man and have needs to you know but she will not do it or atleast send me some sexy pictures but not even that. I would not dump her over this that's out of the question because I really like her but it is getting me really sexually frustrated and she's not helping its like her sex drive is just not there at all I don't want to cheat on her either but its getting to that point where getting laid by another girl is way easier then getting laid by my own girlfriend. What should I do? Is it normal to wait this long?

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  • TerryVie
    11 years ago

    you should really have a serious talk about this with her. depending on your age and life plans, which you told nothing about, this needs sorting out.

    Like, do you not have sex because she intends to wait for marriage? Do you not have sex because she doesn't feel ready? Are you 15 years old or 25?

    It's hard to say without that extra information, but assuming there is no specific reason she doesn't want to have sex, and you are both old enough to expect having sex(say, around 16+) in a serious partnership, you should find out why exactly she decides to keep it platonic.
    A partnership is giving and taking, and heck, even if she never had an orgasm, doesn't masturbate, and has a low sex drive, she should be willing to do this because obviously it means a lot to you and she can make you incredibly happy with this. I mean, i am almost sure if your relationship is not a farce you even put up with things you did NOT like just because they would make her happy.
    And sexuality is a integral part of a happy and permanent partnership.
    If you have a normal sex drive and she is only interested in platonic relationships, it will only cause problems in the end, and most likely not end well.

    Best to get this sorted out now, and have that serious talk now instead of speculating and wondering and simply postponing your problems to next year.

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  • Mmmpfh
    11 years ago

    Totally normal. I dated a girl for 2 and a half years and we never had sex. We probably would have if I had pushed for it, but her being ready was very important to me. It was never a problem to me. But it was never about the sex to me, I never even got a blowjob. Just a few sloppy handjobs. I loved her too much to care.
    But if it's really a problem with you, you definately have to tell her. Everyone's sex drive is different.

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  • blondbond69
    11 years ago

    Tell her youre starting to look at other girls cuz ur horny and if she doesn't put out. ...... you don't know what'll happen. My bf told me that and i fucked him a lot more and it got better

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