Is it normal to cry when my boyfriend is provinces away

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·hello, i have been reading some of the stories and they seem similar to mine. my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year now and it has been really good. we spent almost everyday together. but now he is provinces away working for weeks. and i have been crying almost everynight constantly and always wonder what he is up to, or if he is with someone else...and everytime he calls i question him and he says he would never do that..... i have been cheated on for two years in the past by an ex and im wondering if this is why is feel so depressed that he is away... plz help :(

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  • DublinGirl
    7 years ago

    The last responder was absolutely right. It seems to me that a guy who, by your own admission, has spent almost every day with you for the best part of a 'really good' year must rate you pretty highly. That being the case, I'd say he's earned your trust.

    I can also assure you that nothing is more likely to be the kiss of death for your relationship with him than to continue bombarding him with your doubts about his devotion to you. You've expressed your concern about him going off with someone else and how much that would hurt you and he's given you his assurance that he would never do that. You can't ask any more of him and he can't give you any more.

    Trust is the cornerstone of any meaningful relationship, once it's gone you can never get it back - and don't forget, he's trusting you to stay true to him whilst he's away from you, too.

    As with so much in life, there are no guarantees. But, without a doubt, the best thing you can do, as the previous responder said, is to enjoy your conversations with your boyfriend on the phone, tell him how much you miss him and how much you're looking forward to seeing him again. But don't smother him and come across as desperate, insecure and possessive because all that will do is lead to him dreading your calls and your love will surely wither on the vine.

    Talk to him in the happy and relaxed way you did the whole year you were together before he left. Nothing is more guaranteed than that to have him look forward to your calls and to being back with you again when he returns home.

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  • thecoldhardtruth
    12 years ago

    Okay, constantly suspecting / questioning him is NOT the way to go. This just puts strain on your relationship and must be such a bummer for him to see that you don't trust him. Relax.

    The reality is even if he was doing something/someone behind your back you couldn't really do anything about it at the moment :/

    Just enjoy conversations with him and be relaxed and happy until you get to see him again :)

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  • pogos
    12 years ago

    He/she obviously is.

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  • chicken471bologna
    12 years ago

    You're Canadian, right?

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