Is it normal to cry about your ex almost every night!

So my parents made me break up with the guy of my dreams. We dates for 11 months and I loved him so much. Around our 10 month they told me I was never aloud to see him, talk to him again. That was last match. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. We still occasionally see each other without my parents finding out. It's been about a year and I still lay in bed every night an cry thinking about how much I miss him and how things use to be?... :(

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Based on 32 votes (18 yes)
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Comments ( 13 )
  • shade_ilmaendu

    I would say it's normal under the circumstances.... you're still trying to be with him but at this point it probably feels like the world is against you, doesn't it? How old are you? I remember how intensely I took some of my early relationships... experience brings a surcease from that kind of pain. Hell I just got dumped last week. XD Not really over it... but life goes on, and yours will too.

    If you're going to be 18 soon then it's just a matter of a little bit of a wait. Once you're legally an adult they can't stop you from being with someone. Why did they make you break up anyway? I'd say that reasoning is pretty important when it comes to any advice I would have to give you. Did they have anything resembling a good reason? Or do they just not want you dating?

    Point being if they have a legitimate reason for concern, that I understand. If they're just trying to keep you out of the dating game that seems a bit silly. Parents who are too authoritarian with their children generally end up with their kids rebelling. I grew up in a very sheltering sort of household, ended up going off and doing some pretty stupid shit when I turned 18 because I'd been so innocent and was sick of not being able to make my own decisions.

    You should sit down and talk to them, calmly and maturely and try to find a compromise you both can agree on. But as I said above, I could give you better advice if I know how old you are and why your parents don't like your bf.

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  • Epofly

    Your parents anger me. What is their deal?

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  • cowgirl137

    My parents did right. You all are fucks for talking bad about my parents. He is a creap and a controlling freak.

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    • DiamondGirl

      Who are the fucks, I'll whip them with my leather whip, bastards! Don't let no one say shit about u moms and u dad. You go girl!

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  • ibreathelectric

    What the hell is wrong with your parents?! Uh.. YEAH. Of course it's normal to cry about an ex- especially if you broke up involunarily from both parties. That SUCKS.

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  • go-ahead-call-me-nerd

    yes its perfectly normal i still dream about my first lover even though i feel like he hates me and ignors me but ya its normal

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  • Living_Too_Late

    Too controlling,,, yet it's your parents who've exercised their control. Isn't that what shrinks call 'projection'?

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  • Sog

    You'll get over him as soon as you find another guy. Just make sure that you allow that to happen and don't get stuck here like this.

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  • cowgirl137

    The only reason my parents won't let me see him is because they thought he was too controlling. Yes we had out problems but we always worked them out the next day :/

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  • People can never stop someone from doing anything, you don't love him as much as you think.

    A person will eventually do what they want to do, regardless of consequence. It is the fate of all people.

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  • What were their reasons for preventing you from seeing him? There's a lot you're not including in your story. To answer your title question though; yes, it is normal. You are sad, it makes sense.

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  • Living_Too_Late

    Agree with the above. Unless he's some hardcore 'bad guy' (and that they apparently let you date him for some time suggests he isn't) you should be allowed to make your own choices/mistakes. You won't learn much if they don't cut the apron strings.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers

    Unless they banned you from seeing him because of something extreme like heavy meth use or that he beat you go and see him. It's your life they can't control who you love.

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