Is it normal to crush on someone i've never met?

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I just recently transferred to a new college, and I'm part of its incoming students Facebook group. In browsing the group's members, I stumbled upon a guy who is from the same region of the state that I'm from. He is a transfer as well, and he has really fabulous taste in... everything. I creep on his Facebook and Last.fm daily, and I feel like a huge jerk for doing so. I know that a Facebook profile is not the best thing to go on, but I'm crushing intensely. I've seen him in person twice, but we've never spoken. I don't know how to summon the courage to introduce myself. He is five years my senior (he's twenty-six), and I'm afraid he's out of my league and/or spoken for. I don't bump into him often, and though he's in my major I'm not sure I'll ever have a class with him. I've never dated before, so I have no idea how to approach this, and I'm afraid I'll come off as childish. I REALLY want to pursue him. Should I do it? How do I do it?

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  • diddlyo
    12 years ago

    same major=something to talk about

    Do it before someone else does!

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  • AlwaysAwkward
    12 years ago

    Would I be too forward if, upon first or second meeting, I asked him out for coffee? Would that be an acceptable way to chat even if it turns out he's not single?

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  • helengenn22
    12 years ago

    be clever your a part of this incoming students Facebook group. try and use it to get in contact with him in some way like ask on the group if there are any people from you area and hopfully he will post and you can start talking
    or you could hope he will be in a class and if he is ask him for help with coursework or try and make convo

    what ever you do dont go to freindly like whating to meet eveyday or like whating him to resond asap it will seam needy and may scare him off
    dont metion his facebook unless you ask to add him if he knows youve been spying he will think your some wird stalker tho you can use it to your advatage for example he posts he likes this new band you can say to him hay do you like this new band?

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  • pambambam
    12 years ago

    Ok. You need to focus on who you wanna be. And what can you do to get there. Sucessful people plan ahead of time. What's your dream?? And how can you make it happen?

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  • Chibi_Ranger
    12 years ago

    Is he single? You don't want to appear .. "friendly" if he's into his girl, but you can still befriend him (and wait for a chance). If he's available, add him on Facebook (and some other transfers to avoid exposing the fact that you personally targeted him).

    Pay fair amount of attention to your new transfermates (you don't want suspicion, right) but mention things you two have in common to your crush to arouse his enthusiasm and interest in you. And from there, good luck!

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  • AlwaysAwkward
    12 years ago

    If I don't get to see him in person for a while, would it be okay to introduce myself via Facebook? Like, "Hi, I noticed you're a transfer too. I just want to say that you have really great taste in music. I'm _____."

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  • Smartasscookie
    12 years ago

    Strike up a conversation if you have stuff in common, probably not best to mention you facebook stalked though and play it cool :)

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  • Mr.awesome0
    12 years ago

    Yes it's normal! I've fallen in love with someone just by 1 picture.

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    You've got things in common. Good basis for a conversation. You can even say, "Oh, I noticed you on Facebook. Hi, I'm xxxx". It's honestly okay to say that. Good luck.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Yes! I'd think it's totally cute!!!

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    • shuggy-chan
      12 years ago

      no harm in asking, i mean if that happened to me i'd be a lil flattered

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