Is it normal to consider using people to this extend for personal gain

To fully understand my question you first need to know a little bit about me.

I am a very competitive and ambitious in what I try to accomplish
I care a lot about my social image and I put a lot of thought into keeping it as high as possible. I want everybody to look up at me as much as possible. To have power and control over social structures. I assure any of you readers that I do not sound as much like a megalomaniac in real life. After all, who doesn't want to have power?

Here is my actual question.

I am about to start my second education to get a better diploma and all that good stuff.
It so happens that there is already a lady who attends the university I want to join and who has lately shown a lot of romantic interest in me. I am certain that she is not the kind of girl that I am looking for, her views on a perfect relationship differ too much from mine. But she is one of the most popular and best looking girls in that school. I have been entertaining the idea of getting into a relationship with her merely to benefit from her social stature. Which is surely higher than mine since I will be a new student. And as soon as I am on my feet, destroy hers. To make myself stand taller. I am not one to doubt my own judgment. But as Winston Churchill said: "To improve is to change, to perfect is to change often". I have done things like these before and have felt reasonable guilt as well. But for the first few days after I destroy someone's throne and knock them down to the bottom of the social ladder I feel as high and an amazingly satisfied feeling. It's hard to explain. I have had enough people trying to kick me down but I have always managed to win. I have not, however, ever met anyone who seemed to get as much of a kick out of it as me. Is this normal?

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  • Dazed_dreamer

    well, ya havent met me yet.. I would destroy your ass and anyone else of your kind ^_^

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  • Ellenna

    You may think you're doing a lot of "winning" but you're losing a lot more in terms of honest caring relationships with other people.

    I feel sorry for you and for anyone unlueky enough to have any involvement with you

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    • Honest caring relationships don't mean anything. A living being seeks above all else to discharge its strength. Life itself is will to power, nothing else matters.

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      • theseeker

        Well, I am glad I'm not like you. I’d rather give than receive. You are the perfect example of what I despise and never wanna become. Your whole perception is nothing but a facade. What you are is a con artist, which is someone who uses and destroys others to get what you want. One way or another your true colors will be revealed.

        You deserve to be kicked when your down and nothing more until you learn to change your ways.

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      • Ellenna

        Obviously they don't mean anything to you so if you want to choose a power seeking lonely existence, go for it, but don't expect anyone else to like you or want to be around you.

        What will you have to look back on when you're old?

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      • Anonymous200

        At some point you will want close relationships, and you won't be able to have any, because you will have burnt everyone or let everyone know how you've stepped over others. When that happens, you will be extremely lonely.
        Life isn't about power. Its about creating meaning for yourself through your relationships with other people and seeking out happiness for yourself.

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  • charli.m

    Its going to be hilarious when someome clever and nastier than you fucks you up the arse.

    Shame you're the type that still wouldn't learn.

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  • Incomplet

    1. You're overestimating the value of social stature amongst college students.
    2. If you try to knock down your initial source for scaling the power hierarchy, you'll be surprised by how many people see right through your "clever" ploy.

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  • DolphinAngel

    Do not quote Winston Churchill to vindicate your actions.
    The human nature is quite interesting to be honest.
    Thinking that the will to be stronger or more powerful than others is justified and normal is quite right.
    Humiliating other people or stopping at nothing (German: Über Leichen gehen) might seem like it is worth it for your own sake.
    In an egoistic world only an egoist can win.

    I will tell you my friend, the path you are choosing is not the right one and it will probably cause you less satisfaction than you are imagining for yourself.
    I cannot and I will not stop you from doing what seems right but do no blame me afterwards!

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  • victorygin

    No, you're a cunt.

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

    wow its like a young bill clintons on iin

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  • That 'social stature' really doesn't mean shit. Once you are out of school no one cares how 'popular' you were. Your mind set seems so childish. To use others in that manner is unacceptable. As Ellenna said I feel sorry for you and anyone that comes across your path.

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    • This hostility is no use. And I don't mean popularity in this way. I mean the power and stature from which one can manipulate people's way of acting and being. You are lying if you claim that you don't get joy out of these things.

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      • I would not be lying if I said I didn't enjoy that because truthfully I do not. I keep to myself and don't concern myself with having power over others or using them for my own personal gain. I have hobbies like reading, painting, and hiking to occupy my time. No hostility.

        Just because you enjoy using people don't try and justify it by thinking that everyone else does too. BECAUSE THEY DON'T

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  • Springfurmich

    people here are too close minded. everything that doesn't match their moral standards is disregarded. as for me, i fully support what you are doing. and as for relationship, there are plenty of fish in the sea. but to be honest, i don't understand what kind of 'throne' you are talking about. the popularity in university barely matters. it usually stopped after high school so i don't know what kind of university you go to. i would consider your statements if it was about some sort of presidential position. nevertheless if you get a kick out of it, go ahead, whatever makes you happy. remember, YOU are the most important person in your life. no one should take that place.

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  • BlackyHancock

    One day son, life is gunna kick you in da nuts big time. That day is comin'. Mark my words.

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  • mystery7

    What you are seeking is ultimately empty, hollow and meaningless. When you reach the top of this pinnacle of supposed power you will find there is actually nothing there.

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  • Aries

    I am going to go ahead and assume based on all this information that , you are going to school to become a cop? Am I correct? You sound like someone from law enforcement ... not the kind we civilians like either sorry to say . Why do you need to deceive and take advantage of people to climb "the social ladder" what ever the hell that means? or whatever benefit you think this provided .. leave that poor girl alone and earn your keep like everyone else normal has to . You have to become a man at some point , I suggest starting now .

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  • Motorhippy

    Jesters to the kings that exist only in their minds, too afraid not to wear the mask, but really the mask wears you!

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