Is it normal to consider going outside a relationship for sex?

If that bitch ain't putting out - go out the dick somewhere it will fit. Trust me it's totally worth it. You only get one life - so go get sum pussy.

Yes, I have hooked up with many married men before. It's always the same story. Just don't fall in love.

Everyone has really good suggestions and I agree BUT another one may be are YOU satisfying her in bed? If the sex isn't good she isn't going to want it. Try reading up what a woman really likes..try it out and make her comfortable enough to communicate with you how to improve. If she communicates during the act and you listen then you both win.

Get her in to see her Dr. first to assess why there is no libido & if underlying health problems. Let her know how important this is to both of you. Treat it as a problem and don't allow her to dismiss it. Next step marital - no go there - consider separating. You will never be happy cheating & it will just create a mess. If you are going that far, time to just go.

I was in a relationship for six years with someone with whom I almost never had sex. I thought there was something horribly wrong with me, and went as far as to have a series of medical tests done to see whether it might be attributable to some sort of hormonal imbalance or thyroid condition. The tests uncovered nothing, and my fiance was miserable, and *I* was miserable that *he* was so miserable.

Then I met someone that was devastatingly attractive, and realized that it wasn't a medical condition. I didn't not want to have sex; I just didn't want to have sex WITH MY FIANCE. He had become completely unattractive to me, and even though I loved him dearly I just didn't find him at all sexy.

So we broke up and now I'm seeing someone else with whom I have wild-n-crazy monkey sex all the freakin' time.

Here's my advice: go to the gym. Get a nice haircut. Buy some flattering clothes. Wear cologne. Trim your fingernails. Throw out that disgusting pair of underwear with all the holes in them that you still wear because you think there's nothing wrong with them, and get some colored boxer-briefs. Men often think that they don't have to take care of themselves just because they have penises, but you've got to make an effort to keep yourself attractive- or else don't be surprised when you catch her eyeing the pool boy.

Has her sex drive just decreased over time, or has she never been very passionate with you? Some people just don't like sex, and in my opinion that's kind of an important thing to know before you get married.

I'd say it's fairly normal to consider it -- humans are sexual beings, and passion is an important part of a relationship. I'm not saying to leave her or to cheat on her, but communication is important in any relationship. Counseling could certainly help. But basically, if this is really a problem in your relationship, your wife should be making an effort to help and not just shrugging it off.

I'm not some weepy, lady boy, but I think you should try marriage counciling. When my ex-wife (married 17 yrs) was cheating on me we went to counciling. Well I did, she went twice. But, I found out that even going without her that it was helping me... then I kicked her ass out. So did her boyfriend hahahahahahahaha!!! THATS what helped! Know what I mean!?! Ahem, excuse me. For myself if there isn't any other way to get laid, then yes its fine. Now ladies...don't go "Thats cheating!!! BOO fucking hoo. She isn't being a wife, she's being a room mate. Remember, JCKIIMP says..."If you don't pet the dog, it aint going to stay on the porch!

WAT EVER U DO DONT GO OUTSIDE OF MARREIGE TRY TALKING TO HER MORE

Is your relationship ok aside from the sex part? If everything else is fine, I would go ahead and find sex outside the relationship as long as you don't tell your wife and you get tested with your other partner(s).